DIABETES and Harnessing the PLACEBO EFFECT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Have you ever tried harnessing the Power of the Placebo Effect to positively affect diabetes?

As a parent of a child with diabetes have you ever considered that the placebo effect could help diabetes control? What actually is the definition of a placebo effect? It’s the beneficial effect produced by a placebo drug or treatment, which cannot be attributed to the properties of the placebo itself, and must therefore be due to the patient’s belief in that treatment.

It basically is saying that your mindset, your beliefs, your thoughts and your expectations about diabetes creates results in your life. Results that can be either positive or negative.

I watched a TEDMED talk this week by Alia Crum, PhD about Harnessing the Power of Placebos. Dr. Crum researched the fact that the mere fear of something created the side effects of what was feared. Your fear of diabetes increases the likelihood that whatever you fear will come true. The opposite is also true.

If your mindset is such that you view diabetes as an opportunity to be a better mom, to believe that having diabetes in your family will create stronger family bonds, to think that diabetes will be an avenue for your family to increase their ability to overcome obstacles and gain personal strength, then the placebo effect states that this mindset will shape the outcome of having diabetes.

How can we as moms get to the place where we actually believe these thoughts? How can we choose to see diabetes as a gift to our family? The place to start is with awareness. Being aware of what your thoughts are now about diabetes. Once you explore what your thoughts are now you can explore whether those thoughts are serving you.

Changes in your words about diabetes will change your feeling about diabetes and your actions about diabetes. It will alter how your child views diabetes.

I am not saying that you should be jumping for joy about diabetes, but what I am saying is that you get to choose the lens you put on your life because of diabetes. What lens do you want your child looking through?

A lens of hope and perseverance? A lens of strength and courage? Or a lens of anger and disappointment? A lens of blame and helplessness?

There is research that proves that we can help remove unnecessary suffering through our mindset, which will help our own body’s natural healing abilities. Imagine if our mindset was one of positivity how that would affect the life of our child.

Let me help you create an intentional mindset. A mindset that helps reinforce and harness the positive power of the placebo effect. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and being THANKFUL

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Are you thankful for diabetes?

Crazy, right?  Being thankful for something as awful as diabetes…how can that be. Well, diabetes absolutely changes your life, but what if you could think about diabetes and be thankful?

How can that happen? Well, how does any feeling happen? We think a thought and it creates a feeling in us. When we think of people we love, it can create a feeling of being thankful. Everyone gets to choose their own thought that brings up feelings of being thankful. For some people it’s puppies, for others it’s running marathons, for others it’s waking up alive.

We all have a perspective of what being thankful is. We all have a particular lens that we look through that makes us thankful. What if your lens could help you be thankful when you think about diabetes?

Remember that your thoughts are always your choice. You get to choose how you think about diabetes. You get to choose a thought that serves you or a thought that makes you a victim. You get to decide on purpose how diabetes controls your life or you can choose to live on default mode and give diabetes all of your power. Yes, you can even live your life blaming diabetes for everything terrible in your life. I know because I did that for years.

Whatever you choose be sure to choose it with intention. Try not to live on default mode because living on default mode just means you are making a decision not to be in charge – not to be accountable, not to be responsible for the results in your life.

Choose the tougher road. Choose the one that takes courage and determination. Choose the one that says you are thankful for diabetes. Choose the one that understands diabetes can bring goodness into your life. You get to pick.

I was a victim of diabetes. I blamed diabetes (still do once in a while). Mostly I choose to be thankful. Thankful that we have the opportunity to be stronger, more loving, more committed, more understanding, and more devoted as a mom…because of diabetes. Do I have bad days, absolutely. Do I let those bad days dictate where I’m going in this life, absolutely not.

I’m thankful for diabetes. I’m thankful that my son and husband never complain. I’m thankful that they show me every day how to be a better mom and wife.

You can CHOOSE to be thankful, too.

Let me help you learn how to take control of your thoughts about diabetes. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and being in the DRIVER’S SEAT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Are you sitting in the passenger seat of your life expecting to direct where your life goes?

Do you actively make choices in your life? What’s a choice, anyhow? It’s the act of making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities. There were days when diabetes entered my life that I didn’t or thought I just couldn’t make another decision. I just wanted time to move by and for diabetes to move on. Well we know how that went. Diabetes stayed! Diabetes did not move on!

However, I finally found the strength to make a decision. If diabetes was here to stay then I would have to be the one to change – to move on. I finally had the strength to realize I had a choice. Yes, it took strength and courage to realize I had a choice.

What’s easy is not making a choice. It’s easy to not make any decision, but honestly it brings on a feeling of being stuck. Not choosing enables a feeling of being a victim. If you don’t want to be a victim of diabetes – if you want to stop blaming diabetes then you have to first realize you have a choice.

Awareness and realization is essential. It allows you to take some of your power back from diabetes. It allows you be in charge. Regardless of what you choose, the act of making a decision is BIG!

It means you are taking responsibility. It means you are accountable. It’s one of the best gifts I can give myself. It’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself. Make a decision and own it. If it’s not the right one, guess what? Then you get to own it and make another one.

The key is to always make the decision from a place of love. Make a decision based on love for yourself or for others. If you make the decision and the result is not what you anticipated then know you had good intention. Then you have no reason to judge yourself.

The only way to be free of judgement is to not judge yourself. You can let the result be feedback on how to make the next decision but judging yourself will never help you to make a better decision.

Additionally, allowing the judgement of others to affect you will not help you either. Someone else’s judgment is a reflection of them not a reflection of you. Their judgement is seen through their lens. As a mom of a T1D I believe my lens is different.

A person’s lens is not right or wrong. It’s just a way they view the world from their perspective. Just know that your choice, your decision to do or not to do something is correct for you. It doesn’t have to be correct for everyone, nor should it.

Make choices that move your life forward. Make choices that you own. Make choices that put you in the driver’s seat of your life. Don’t sit in the passenger seat and expect to end up where you want to be in your life.

Let me help you on your journey to making decisions and making choices that you can own and feel good about. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and the POWER of PLANNING

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Is your life just happening to you or are you planning the results you want?

I was going to title this Planning Your Life but it didn’t express how I feel about planning. The power of planning is evident in my clients’ lives – thus the title. The best news is that you get to plan your life.  Your life does not just happen to you, unless you live your life on default mode.

You get to design the GPS of your own life. You get to decide where you want to go, how you’re going to get there, how often you want to stop, how far you want to go…you get to plan all of it.

I understood it intellectually, until my son was diagnosed with diabetes.  I became was so overwhelmed that I let my life move forward on default. I believed it was easiest, if I just sailed along. There was so much to learn and so many things to consider having a child with diabetes that planning my life was not even on my radar.

However, there came a day when I realized that my life was moving forward whether or not I took charge of it. Planning my life and the results I wanted would have to be a conscious choice. It would take time and it would require me to be uncomfortable if I wanted the big goals I started dreaming about.

The first step is awareness. Just be aware that you get to choose which direction you want your life to go. If you’re the one responsible for planning it, you will have to make a decisions to take charge, plan it and take full responsibility for it.

It means no more blaming diabetes, no more being a victim of diabetes, and no more letting life happen to you.

  1. Plan for your outcome, the result you want in your life, by writing it out.
  2. Break it down into manageable chunks.
  3. Write down all the obstacles you anticipate for why you can’t achieve it.
  4. Turn all the obstacles into to-do items.
  5. Put those to-do items in order of execution.
  6. Then put them all on your calendar.
  7. Every day honor your calendar and commitment to yourself.

Remember energy drain comes from indecision and lack of planning. Making decisions provides relief. Being in indecision creates agitation, anxiousness, and all sorts of negative emotions. So many of us don’t make decisions, plans or move into action, and that indecision drains more and more of our energy.

As soon as you make a plan, you will know exactly what to do. Once it’s on your calendar, the decision will have been made. Then you will have more energy to proceed to get the life you dream of.

Many times we don’t make a decision because we are not sure, and we think we need to take more time. Indecision pretends to be responsible, but really, it’s just procrastination. All it does is burn you out and wear you down then when you finally make the decision, it’s usually the decision you would have made in the beginning anyway.

Let me help you use the power of planning to figure out how to live your life with intention. How to show yourself exactly what you are capable of. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?