DIABETES and ACCEPTANCE

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Have you accepted diabetes as part of your life?

What if you accepted diabetes like you would have chosen it? What if you stopped blaming diabetes and being a victim of it? What do you think would change in your life?

For me everything changed. I gave myself permission to choose happiness. I gave myself permission to believe that diabetes was an opportunity for all of us to become more…serve more, have more insight, grow more, and even enjoy more.

However, giving yourself permission to accept diabetes doesn’t just magically change your world. It truly takes effort, because if you want a different result in your life you have to practice different thoughts. You have to practice feeling different emotions. Yes it takes practice, it takes effort and it will be uncomfortable.

The definition of acceptance is “the action of consenting.” It means living in every moment with every emotion, with everything that’s happened to you and saying that you consent to it all. It means that you would choose it.

At first, I was like that’s just crazy, “Who would choose diabetes?” No one. But what if I could truly believe that I would choose it and then believe that all the emotions, the highs, the lows, (literally and emotionally) could serve me to be a better mom, a better person.

Once I got to the point that just maybe diabetes made me a better mom then my lens on the world opened up. It was like a weight was lifted. I didn’t have to hate diabetes. I didn’t have to live my life as a victim. I no longer had to argue with what was. I no longer had to believe that life should be different. No longer believed life would be better without diabetes.

What if you could accept diabetes as something you would choose? Consider accepting all the facts in your life, all the circumstances in your life that you don’t have the ability to change, to consent to all those things, to accept all those things.

How willing are you to accept diabetes as something you would choose? How willing are you to believe that by the end of 2020 you could be living a life that you create on purpose?

Acceptance requires effort. It requires effort to believe. It requires effort to let go of all the anger and contrasting thoughts. That’s true for our past and present, but if you can accept everything that happened, you will get better at accepting, and you will start to accept the things you can’t yet believe.

Accepting is not giving up. It’s not believing that life in the future will be better. It’s using effort to make that future life better. It’s doing the work on yourself to make your life better.

The present is only here to teach you what you need to know and believing that the future is your property is essential. Taking ownership of your future, your property, can happen.

All you have to do is claim your future and accept that anything you want is possible. Anything you have the power to imagine, you have the power to create in your life. The minute you genuinely, truly accept it, it will be as good as done. I promise you this.

Put effort into consenting, into accepting diabetes and see what you can create in your life.

Let me help you change your life and stop fighting diabetes. Let me help you create a life that you claim as your own, a life that you choose with intention. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and PADDLING YOUR BOAT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Are you just floating along where ever life takes you or have you picked up your paddles and steering your life with intention?

We are all on this boat ride called life. Yep in a boat and you can just float along with the current and the waves or you can pick up the paddles and steer your life with intention. Will it take effort? Yes!  Will it be worth it? Yes!

It’s easy to just float along even through the storms of life but then we end up in this blame and shame game. We end up blaming others for the storms or feeling shame because of our inability to manage the storms.

We can spend our lives just get through the storms. We all have storms – both predicted storms and spontaneous ones. I used to just manage each storm as it came up. I used to manage in survival mode. I felt pretty good in survival mode but wasn’t really in charge of where I was going with my life.

What’s your life look like? Are you just managing from blood sugar to blood sugar? Are you just managing from supply order to supply order?

It’s a way of life that might work for you. I’m hoping that for our new decade coming up that you think about not just riding the waves and letting life take you and your boat where ever it might go BUT you decide to pick up your paddles and steer towards your life with intention.

How do can we pick up our paddles? It starts with awareness. Awareness of where you are and where you want to be. Take notice of what parts of your life you love and what parts you don’t.

Start to become aware of the parts of your life you don’t like. Those parts are ones you can change. Ones you can take initiative to alter. How do we alter them? We decide what we would like to change and then consciously decide what we want to change them to….what is it that you want instead.

Remember that we only become better at what we practice. If you have practiced for years (unknowingly) to have your life drift along and just survive you will need to consciously begin to practice different thoughts and different habits and actions.

But for now just be aware of where you are drifting and where you’d like to steer your boat to instead. Think about picking up your paddles and slowly venturing towards a life of intention. A life full of curiosity and intention.

You can decide to be curious about diabetes and its impact on your family. You can decide to stop being a victim of diabetes and make it an opportunity to take charge of your destiny.

Become aware of where you are and where you want to be…then let me help you start paddling towards your goal. DREAM BIG, my friend, and PADDLE HARD – it’s always worth it!

Let me show you how a session with a certified life coach can change the direction of your life. It can change your thoughts about diabetes. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and FAILING

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Have you become good at failing?

Are you afraid of failing or of admitting you failed? I surely used to be and once in a while I still am, but I realized that I won’t get better at anything that I don’t practice. Actually becoming good at failing means you’re learning and growing.

Practicing anything that you’re not good at involves a risk of failure. The most common feelings when we think of failing are shame and guilt.

Shame focuses on yourself and guilt focuses on your behavior. Shame is saying, “I’m sorry I am a mistake” and guilt is saying, “I’m sorry I made a mistake.”  However, both of these emotions hinder your forward progress towards improvement.  Failing doesn’t hinder it. Failing actually is essential to getting better at something. It means you are trying. It’s your negative thoughts about failing that hinder progress.

Guilt and shame will never serve you. They just get in the way of forward progress. What SHOULD you take from failing?

You should take failing as feedback. It’s feedback so that when you try again you might succeed. Feedback which allows yourself to grow and learn. If you never fail you never grow.

The best thing to try and do is to own your weaknesses. We all have them and as parents of children with diabetes we have plenty of them (especially when our children are newly diagnosed).

Weaknesses just give us opportunities for personal growth. You don’t have to make it mean anything more than that. Weaknesses don’t have to have a negative sigmatism to them. They don’t have to mean that you aren’t good enough. All they have to mean is you have an opportunity to improve in that area (if you choose to).

When I first became a mom of a T1D I made all high and low blood sugar levels mean that I was failing as a mom. Looking back that wasn’t necessary. Those numbers just meant I had more to learn and also that diabetes is a difficult disease to manage.

I think we can all agree that diabetes has so many variables that affect blood sugar numbers. A bit of self-care and self-love goes a long way to allowing us to grow from the experience. Allowing us to open up to learning and understanding all of the intricacies of managing diabetes.

When you go to a place of guilt and shame there’s no opportunity to learn and grow. Let go of the self-judgement. It only brings you to a place of victim mentality, which won’t move you forward. Failure is just feedback. Taken as feedback failing is an opportunity.

As a mom of a child with diabetes take each blood sugar number just as feedback and adjust from there. Don’t add the drama. Know that what you are doing is enough.

You are the perfect mom for your child. Unconditional love for yourself is as important as unconditional love for your child.

I’d love to help you learn how to take every blood sugar number and every A1C as feedback. I’d love to help you to leave all the self-judgement behind.. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and What Should I TOLERATE

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Do you have a mental list of what you should and shouldn’t tolerate?

Before you can figure out what you will or won’t tolerate, you should clean up your mind. Clean up your thoughts. Get to a place where you are responsible for your own emotions. Once you get to that place, you get to decide what your response will be to someone else’s action.

When someone else does or says something you get to decide whether or not you tolerate it. That’s in your control. My suggestion is that you think about the result you want before you make a decision.

Weighing the result you want keeps you in control. It means you get to retain all of your power in that situation…instead of giving it away. When you decide the result you want then you will then know what action you should take. From the action you will understand the feeling you will get and the thought that will give you that feeling.

To tolerate or to not tolerate comes from a thought. It’s a thought that creates the feeling you desire that triggers the action and which reaps the results.

I always have a few basic things that were at the core of my thoughts – they are unconditional love, health and happiness – along with personal growth, curiosity, integrity and purpose. Those are my core strengths and desires.

Do you have core strengths and desires that are your GPS to what you will tolerate? I developed a personal mission statement a few years ago which makes its easier to guide me on what I will and won’t tolerate.

My mission statement evolves. It has changed a few times – adding things that become important to me as I grow and life changes.

Do you have a personal mission statement that is the basis of what you will tolerate?

When it comes to tolerating things what’s essential is you decide on purpose. You decide with intention. You decide from a place of freedom. Remember you are 100% loveable and worthy. What you tolerate from others about diabetes needs to be thought about. Yes, sometimes it’s instinctive. It’s your momma bear instinct coming out and lashing out, but the best way is to come from a place of power, a place of intention, and a place of control.

What’s important is that you don’t ever make a decision based on what you think other people think you should do, or what you think society would say you should do, or any preconceived ideas about what the other person should or shouldn’t be doing.

I’d love to help you design a personal mission statement that can help guide you towards freedom of what you will and won’t tolerate. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and SELF-DISCIPLINE

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Do you honor your commitments?

Discipline is your ability to have self-control and restraint against things your primitive brain desires. Your brain has a lower level (primitive) and a high level function. The primitive brain is the default and when you don’t pay attention to your thoughts and you let them run on default mode – they just want to take the path of least resistance and avoid any discomfort.

However, discipline brings freedom and a peaceful existence – along with discomfort and strength.

Willpower is part of discipline and it can be improved and grown. The more willpower you have, the more restraint you have, the more self-control you have, and the more discipline you will have.

Embrace discipline as the very secret to your freedom and to your success. Freedom to be in control of your life and not to live your life in default mode. Not to live your life always in response to what happened, but in control of making it happen. Discipline allows you to be proactive.

To create more discipline, set expectations and rules for yourself ahead of time, and then honor those rules. When you do this, you don’t have to use willpower and restraint in the moment of challenge. The willpower is already developed ahead of time.

The more you set up all of your decisions ahead of time, the less reactive you will be in the moment, especially when it comes to diabetes. Having a plan and sticking to that plan always gave me strength even if that planned changed. I still had a plan  – a foundation/structure from where I made decisions in place.

When you make a commitment and then honor that commitment to yourself by not giving yourself the option to optout or quit. That’s true discipline. I found success in this because it taught me to not make commitments unless I truly found value in what I was committing to. I no longer made haphazard commitments. When someone asked me to do something I used to just always say yes and then figure out whether or not I could follow through after I committed.

Practicing self-control, practicing restraint, is what makes you stronger. It’s understanding the commitment and then following through. It’s not saying yes and figuring out if the commitment will work for you.

The more you use your discipline and honor your commitments, the more willpower, restraint, and discipline you will have at your disposal to use to fuel your success and happiness.

When you honor your own decisions, you get better at it. You’ve practiced it. If you do it in one area of your life, you get better at it in all areas of your life. Discipline in one area applies to every area.

Using discipline by making a plan for yourself ahead of time, and then honoring that plan will create a relationship with yourself based on integrity and honor.

The more integrity you have with yourself, the better your relationship with yourself will be. You’ll be able to ask more of yourself and be willing and able to create more discipline and success.

I would love to help you with creating more discipline, willpower and success in your life. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?