DIABETES and HAPPINESS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question: Do you believe that happiness and diabetes can coexist?

What if in this present moment, you were able to experience all of the joy you are anticipating in some future moment when diabetes is cured or easily controlled?  What if you capacity for happiness right now is exactly equal to your happiness at some future point in time?

Believe it or not…right this moment, you have the ability to be fully present and fully happy. This is great news!  We have the ability to control our thoughts and choose joy and happiness in the present moment, if that’s what we want.

We often think this isn’t possible. We think that we need to put in our “dues” now in exchange for some future moment of happiness. If we can get through things now, and survive, we can delay happiness until the future, when our child has the “perfect” A1C, when our diabetic supplies ordered arrive on time and without five phone calls confirming insurance and scripts, when we have more money and more time.

The truth is that circumstances (diabetes, our spouse, our job) are never responsible for our happiness – it is always our thoughts that are responsible. Your ability to be happy right now is at 100%. Your ability to be happy in the future is 100%.

Using your mind is the most efficient and most powerful way to ensure happiness. When you realize that your thoughts create happiness the world becomes open to so many possibilities. I am not saying that we want to be happy all the time because we don’t. We don’t want to be happy when we have a low blood sugar or are struggling to manage insulin amounts.

What I am saying is that happiness is a mindset and you can create it any time you desire to have it.

Most of my clients then ask me why they should set goals then, if happiness is available at every moment. I tell them the reason to set goals are so that you have a purpose. Also you’re able to see what you are capable of by setting goals.

Setting goals is a way for you to evolve into the best version of yourself. Goals gives your brain supervision and structure. You will always be the one responsible for creating your results but goals is a way to create results with intention.

The one thing I tell my clients is not to believe that they will be happier when they achieve something or when they are able to purchase something. What you don’t want to do is tell yourself you will be “happier” in the getting of things. It is this false sense that happiness is created by things when it is always created by your thinking.

Try and challenge yourself to find the awesomeness of this moment right now. When you are tempted to look to the future for something and you tell yourself, “I can’t wait…” try and step back and ask yourself, “Why can’t I wait?” What do you expect to feel when you get there or get that item? Then remember that you have the ability to feel that way right now.

Would you like some help with your happiness set point? I can help you find happiness with intention. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and when something BAD HAPPENS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question: Who do you want to be as you go through life with a child who has diabetes?

When something happens to you or your family as a result of diabetes do you automatically label it as bad? I used to…that’s because I believed that the diagnosis of diabetes was the worst thing that ever happened to us.

However, the most important thing I learned is that all problems were in my mind. I learned that a problem is a thought and it’s only a problem when I started to think about it.

Stay with me…if you’re thinking in a way that’s causing you pain, it doesn’t matter if it’s true or if it’s not true. Is the thought serving you? You need to be careful that you pay attention and make sure those thoughts are conscious and intentional.

Decide on purpose what you want to feel in that situation. I decided that I wanted to feel compassion, love and curiosity, no matter what happens with diabetes. Most of the time I can but for sure some of the times I just hate diabetes but at least I know there’s an option.

Some really good questions are: Who do you want to be as you go through life with a child who has diabetes? Do you want to feel frustrated and scared, like a victim? Or open to solutions and strong?

You can argue with your thoughts but there is no upside to doing that. There is no place where you can be creative and wise when you’re arguing with your thoughts or beating yourself up because you aren’t managing diabetes “right” – if there is such a thing.

What you can do instead, is just notice your thoughts that are creating your emotions. Most of time, when you are feeling helpless and disempowered, it’s because you’re identifying yourself as a victim.

All of your power in a “bad” situation is knowing and really understanding that the circumstance is neutral. You get to control what you think about it. When you do focus on what you can control, you get back in the driver’s seat.

A powerful thought to think is, “What is meant to happen does. It was always going to go down this way, and nothing has gone wrong.” Then ask yourself: “If I knew that this was always going to happen, how would I show up differently?”

You’re going to run into obstacles in your life, and those obstacles are part of the deal. They’re supposed to happen. They’re part of the process of being human.

Some helpful questions to ask yourself are: What does this situation offer me? What is the opportunity here? What can I learn from this? How can I use this to make me stronger? What feels most like love right now?

“Bad” things happen. It means that you’re a human being on the planet, and this is what happens in life. You get to decide how you want to show up for things…show up with diabetes as part of your life.

Would you like help taking control over your thoughts about diabetes? Would you like to stop feeling like a victim of the disease? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and HARD DAYS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question: Do you have hard days caused by diabetes?

Remember that a hard day does not exist without your thoughts. Read that sentence again.

A hard day does not exist without your thoughts.

Days just happen. They are 24 hour periods of time. There are not hard or easy unless our mind thinks so. It’s not the day that’s hard or easy.

It is our thoughts about the day that makes it hard or easy. A hard day is not made by diabetes. That’s a crazy idea, right?

I used to believe that diabetes made every day hard. Of course, it did! Blood sugar numbers were difficult to manage. All of the supply ordering never went smoothly. It always entailed long conversations with my health insurance company and our endocrinologists office.

Of course, diabetes made my days hard. Guess what I realized? That diabetes was not responsible for making my days hard. It was my thinking that made my days hard.

I could choose to think any thoughts I wanted about my day. I could choose to be happy that we had diabetes and not some other disease. I could choose to think that diabetes made us stronger as a family. I could choose to think diabetes was a blessing.

The above thoughts were not thoughts I wanted to choose. I wanted to believe that diabetes made my day hard. I didn’t want to take responsibility. I liked being a victim. It was comfortable and it was what I was used to. It was a habit.

It was a habit I had to break. I learned a few tools. Tools that allowed me to be fully responsible, fully accountable for my life. At first, it was scary. I was afraid of being wrong.

What if I was not in charge of my thoughts? What if diabetes was in charge of my days?

I’m happy to report that my thoughts are in charge. That’s such a relief. I get to decide on purpose which days are hard and which ones are easy.

Somedays I think, “It’s going to be a hard day…” after a rough night of blood sugars…but I use that thought as a motivator. My next thought is “…And I can do hard things.”

Most people think “It’s going to be a hard day…” and use it as a reason not to show up, to hide, and to be a victim of diabetes. Their thoughts are controlled by blood sugar numbers. They use the numbers as an indication of the day they are going to have instead of using the numbers as feedback.

If you’re telling the story of a hard day, you can also tell a story of a great day because it’s there too. You’re just not choosing to focus on it. The day was just the day. Good and bad. Hard and easy.

You can choose which you’d like to see and focus on. You get to choose the lens you view your life through. Tell yourself the version of the story you want to choose.

You can choose to have no hard days. How? Choose only to focus on the good in every day. Of course, I don’t want that either. I want to think days are hard when life is difficult but I want to know it’s my choice.

I still have days that are hard, but I now know I’m choosing to think they are hard. Every day is 24 hours and neutral. I get to decide if it’s hard or easy.

Want help taking charge of your hard days? Want help being fully responsible for your thoughts and your life? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?