DIABETES and AMBITION

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  Is ambition a positive or negative trait?

Does having a child with diabetes mean you have to be ambitious? How do you define ambition?  I define it as, “a strong desire to do or achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.

What’s your take? Is it a negative quality or a commendable quality? To me, it whether or not it’s negative or positive is dependent on what’s it’s fueled by. What’s the result you want from your ambition?

Ambition inspires some people, while it turns others off. Ambition fueled by compassion and understanding is very different than ambition fueled by greed and jealousy.  When someone’s drive to achieve something comes at the expense of other people, while for others, their ambition comes from a place of wanting to make a contribution to the world.

What is your ambition fueled by? Is your ambition fueled by abundance or is it fueled by lack. When it’s fueled by lack, no cost is too high to achieve the end result. This is where workaholism, deceit, exploitation, and greed give ambition a bad name.

Ambition fueled by abundance is what moves us forward. It’s the trait that finds answers to insulin issues, it’s the trait that discovers technological issues such as the loop, and it’s the trait that finds solutions to our biggest diabetic issues.

Finding comfort in what we know and what we have is a first step, not the end game. Ambition, our desire for more, is what will keep us growing and evolving.

Have you considered what our world would be like if nobody was ambitious? I’m so thankful for all of you who have been ambitious in the world and for what you have created that contributes to a better quality of life for my child who has diabetes.

I can help you with the results you want in your life and how to fuel them by ambition. I can help your future to be fueled by abundance. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and CONSTRAINT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  How are you managing Social Distancing and the Coronavirus?

It’s been a crazy week. The impact that the Coronavirus has had on our lives has been beyond incredible.  I started last week out in overwhelm. It seemed necessary. The panic seemed necessary. However, this week I began managing my life with constraint. Constraint may seem counterintuitive when it seems there is a shortage of food and supply but constraint will reduce the overwhelm.

What is constraint, anyhow? To me, it’s a limitation or restriction I put on myself that simplifies my life. Sounds easy, right? It’s not. At least not for me. I have a tendency to want to multi-task and manage everything at once. I then feel overwhelmed. By constraining and deciding ahead of time how I will manage my time and my focus I reduce overwhelm.

The reason that constraint is so important is because it reduces overwhelm. It makes decisions so much easier for me. Constraint is basically a rule that I set up for myself that helps me decide ahead of time how I’m going to find solutions and manage issues. It helps me decide ahead of time so last minute decisions don’t come into play.

Instead of managing all of the ever-changing issues that have come up with social distancing I decided to focus on one at a time. I decided ahead of time that life was going to be different and instead of thinking about how awful it all was I knew that I was going to manage one concern at a time. I was going to solve one issue at a time. It was difficult to stay out of panic and overwhelm, but I did it (most of the time).

You can learn constraint, as well. When you constrain your attention to one thing, you can be laser focused and disciplined with your mind. I have discovered that when I’m focused on one thing, I have more disciplined thinking, and my productivity goes through the roof.

Initially you won’t like constraint because you will want to keep your options open. You will begin to worry that you are missing out on something when you are focusing on just one thing. But keeping your options open is a huge mistake because you will have too many options. Too many things for your mind to think about.

Honestly, when you constrain yourself and make decisions ahead of time, it frees up your mind. Constraining the types of food you are eating, constraining exercising and physical health, and constraining social media all will help with managing your mind set.

When you make your decision about food, exercising, social media, etc ahead of time it will be easier to honor your commitment to yourself. Constraint reveals your ability to make a decision and keep a commitment to yourself.

It also reveals how your relationship is with yourself, and how willing you are to honor the commitments to yourself. I know that the more I honor my commitment to myself, the higher my self-esteem, and the better I feel about myself.

This week was absolutely challenging. I began each day with worry after reading about the new restrictions and concerns about the covid19. However, constraint completely allowed me to maintain composure and enabled me to focus on very few things at a time.

Having constrained to honor what’s important to me has been so much better than a lot of options and overwhelm.

nunI can help you manage the worry and the overwhelm you are feeling about the coronavirus. I can help teach you how you can constrain your life. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and WORRY

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  Are you feeling worried and anxious about the Coronavirus?

I hear you! I am too, or at least I was until I stopped and sat still for a moment. Initially, I went into panic mode. Calling a pharmacy in Canada asking if they had insulin and if I needed a script. The answer was no I didn’t need a script and each vial was $45.00 Canadian.  I was ready to make the 3 hour trek.

I paused. I thought. I halted the panic. I started to search for what my biggest concerns were and then how to manage those concerns. The answer didn’t come through worry. Worry wouldn’t find me solutions. I decided that there might be another option to secure extra insulin. I called my insurance company.  Yes they would approve an extra 90 day supply of insulin. I still have an option of driving. I then started to think of other possible long term issues and finding solutions to those.

Thinking and planning worked. Worry didn’t work….for me. I’m not sure what will work for you. What I am saying is that you have a choice as to how you want to think about what lies ahead.

What mindset do you want in the days and weeks ahead? Be curious as to why you are feeling the way you are. Ask yourself, “How would I choose to feel, if I had a choice?” You may choose to be worried. You may choose to read and educate yourself. You may choose to panic. You may choose to not care. It’s all available to you.

What thoughts are the ones that will serve you the best? What people in your life will support and empower you? What do you want your child to remember about this time?

I always tell my clients that if they were at a dinner party (not likely any time soon), but if they were and there was a silver platter being passed around with a whole bunch of emotions which one would you choose today? Which ones will help you find solutions? Which ones will help you find strength? Currently, I’m choosing strength, calm, compassion, and empathy.  I’m not sure about tomorrow but I do know tomorrow it will still be my choice.

If you look at Martin Seligman’s work on positive psychology it’s your mindset that determines the outlook. It’s your mindset that determines your reality. It’s not what’s happening outside of you that creates your reality. It’s your thoughts about what’s happening that does.

It’s possible to just start savoring your positive experiences and extracting the maximum positive emotions from them. Maximize your happiness with thoughts that you intentionally choose.

Let the worry go and work on finding solutions to what you are worrying about.

I can help you manage the worry and the overwhelm you are feeling about the coronavirus. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and BEING OFFENDED

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  Do you get offended by the comments of others about diabetes?

There are so many times I’ve been offended by comments made by others about diabetes. I lost track of how many. I used to get so angry. I believed that their ignorance was something to be mad about. I believed that if I could fix all of the inappropriate comments I’d be happier.

Do you get those comments, too? Do you get angry about them? Does a comment from someone who should “know better” control your mood? Yep I get you! I used to do all of those things. Especially right after diagnosis. I was so angry that diabetes was in our life that any comment that I didn’t feel was appropriate would anger me.

I got tired of being angry. I got tired of blaming others for their comments. I got tired of letting the comments of others control my day. Yes I was letting them control my day. I was giving them permission to take control of my day. I was giving all of my power to them.

Once I knew that I was in charge of how I thought about the comments of others then I took control over my life. I took control over the ignorance of others. It’s not that I stop caring what others say. It’s just that I correct them in a way that doesn’t change my day.

I started being aware of how all of the comments about not eating sugar, about if we watched what our son ate he wouldn’t be diabetes were making me feel. I understood that every feeling came from a thought. I started to explore what my thought was that created all the anger I had from those comments.

I found out that the thought was that I was angry about diabetes being in my life and every time someone said something stupid it was a way for me to blame them, a way for me to be a victim of others’ comments. Of course, everyone agreed that I had a right to be angry but was that anger serving me?

Guess what? As soon as I realized that the anger was not helping me or my son I started working on how I wanted to respond. What I wanted to feel when someone made a comment. I decided on purpose that being offended only hurt me – only hurt my son. It gave him permission to not take charge of his own emotions.

Now when I hear someone thing that is ignorant or downright mean I pause and think about how I want it to affect me. How I want to respond? If I wanted to even respond? I started to just be curious about why people said such things?

I finally realized their comments were just a reflection of them. It only became a reflection of me when I let it control my emotions.

Yes there are times I want to be angry about what people say but only if it serves me. Most of the time it doesn’t serve me.

Be curious when you get offended. Figure out ahead of time how you want to respond. Keep all of your power! Show your child that they can keep their power!

If you’d like to stop being offended by the comments of others join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and MASSIVE ACTION

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  Most days are you taking more massive or passive action?

I believe that massive action is part of being a mom of a child with diabetes. Massive action is the action that you are going to take and continue taking until you hit your goal. Passive action is all of the learning, studying, and listening to podcasts that you do before beginning to move towards your goal.

Massive action also included the process of anticipating obstacles and being willing to fail and try again, and fail, and take more action, and do it wrong, yet try again and on and on until you reach your goal.

The failing over and over again requires that you keep your sights on the goal, and that you are willing to do anything to get there. You will continue to try different ways, you will fail, and you will continue to tweak your actions until you hit your desired result.

That is massive action, and it’s a rare thing. Maybe not as rare when it comes to moms who have a child with diabetes but I used to think all of what I did was massive action but it was really just passive action.

I wasn’t pushing myself to be more positive, more future focused. I was using passive action, which is all the thing that are done “in preparation for” action. All of the intellectual action (studying, learning, listening to podcasts) is passive action.

Passive action has to do with consumption. Massive action has to do with creation.

So, how do you know if you’re taking massive or passion action?

How many times have you fallen on your face?

When you are taking massive action, you will fall on your face again and again because you will be pushed up against your obstacles and forced to try big things. You will fail fast.

When taking passive action, there is no risk involved. You are hiding, and failure is avoided.

Keep taking action until you get the result you want. That’s massive action. It doesn’t feel good to fail but if you stay away from shame and blame after failing and just keep working towards your goal you will get there!

Do you need some help understanding what massive action would look like for you? Would you like help managing the failure that comes with massive action? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?