DIABETES & FEELING BETTER

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  Do you believe that you’d “feel better” if social distancing would end?

It’s natural to feel that way. It seems we all want to believe that ending social distancing would equate to happiness. However it’s so not true.

The only reason any of us ever want anything is because of how we believe we will feel in attaining and having it. How we feel is NEVER the result of a circumstance. It’s always tied to a thought.

The circumstance is neutral. Social distancing is totally neutral until we have a thought about it. So how do we start to feel better? We first have to identify how we actually want to feel.

Ask yourself: “What will be different when social distancing ends, and what will be the same?” The answer will point you toward something you are hoping to feel. For me, it’s the feeling of freedom. The feeling of not being contained. What’s the feeling you are wanting?

Next, ask yourself: “What would give me that feeling, and am I focused on something externally that I need to achieve, or am I believing that I can create whatever emotion it is that I want to feel right now?”

Often, we think, “When I have, do, or accomplish (fill in the blank”, THEN I will feel better.”

The truth is, we never have to wait to have something in order to feel better. We can feel better right now if we choose to.

Feelings are created by us and are for us. If we want to feel excited, we can think about things that excite us on purpose, and we will feel excited more often. If we want to feel happiness, we can think about things that make us feel happy, and we will experience happiness more often.

Here’s the thing – the key to feeling better is all in our minds.

The only thing we need to feel better is to know what we are feeling now, know how we want to feel and then generate thoughts (that we can believe) to help us feel that way. The thoughts have to be believable.

How do you want to feel today?

It’s worth giving it some thought.

Would you like help learning how to feel better? Would you like to learn how to feel better without having any circumstance in your life change? Would you like to feel better about having a child who has diabetes? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and CREATING PASSION

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  How is passion actually created?

Passion is an emotion and any emotion you want to experience has to be created by you. Not by something outside of yourself. It can’t be found? You don’t have to find something outside of yourself to give it to you.

It’s not your spouse’s job to make you happy. It’s not your career’s job to make you happy. It’s not your kids job to make you happy. It’s your job.

Passion comes from your mind. It comes from your thinking. When you think passionate thoughts, you feel passion. Plain and simple. It’s just not easy, at least not at first.

Effortless passion comes from automatic, habitual thinking that we have programmed and learned in our brains. Consistently thinking and consistently believing a certain thought creates a neural pathway. When we’ve thought it enough, we delegate it to our lower brain. Then the lower brain will just take over and think it for us. It doesn’t need as much energy to feel that emotion.

If you want to have effortless passion, you need to get back to that space where you practice consciously creating passionate thoughts. Practice it until it is effortless. The steps for doing that are: create it, practice it, and repeat it. If you repeat it enough times, it will become an effortless neural pathway in your brain.

The first step to creating passion is to do a thought download on all the thoughts preventing you from feeling passion now. Doing this in a way where you’re not judging or editing yourself powerfully shows you all your negative patterns.

The next step is to create thoughts that generate passion without needing to change your present circumstances. Remember a time when you felt passion. What were you thinking? What did it feel like in your body? What were you experiencing? When you start thinking all the thoughts that generate passion, and you start practicing those thoughts, you start creating passion.

Programming your brain and learning something new is awkward. It’s like learning a new language. It can be frustrating and tedious, but if you want to live a life of passion, you have to study it. Instead of seeking something outside of yourself to give passion to you, you can learn to generate it from within.

Would you like help creating passion in your life, especially while raising a child with diabetes? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and COVID-19

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  Do you find “worry” to be helpful or useful?

Does worry generate a feeling of confidence or positivity? It doesn’t for me. It does feel like it’s necessary these days. With so much unknown why shouldn’t I feel worry? I understand the answer but sometimes worry anyhow. Worry does nothing for me. It doesn’t allow me to focus on finding a solution.

How does worry feel to you? It may feel necessary. It may feel that you don’t have an option. It’s just part of the Covid19 world we live in. So much is unknown right now so worry is just part of it.

The answer is that worry is optional. Worry is living on default mode. It’s important to understand that you have a choice as to how you show up every day. Does pandemic mode include worry for you? Does it have to? No.

You may ask how worry can be optional. How do you gain control over it? Taking control means that you intentionally decide what gives you the best results in your life. Becoming aware of what you are worried about is the first step. It always begins with awareness. When you are worrying start to think about what you are worried about.

Spend a few minutes writing down everything you are worried about. When you are finished with the list ask yourself what else you are worried about? Once that list seems complete go back through it. Sometimes it helps for me to walk away from the list for a bit and then come back. It depends on what’s going on in my life.

When I come back to the list, what I do first is qualify each as a circumstance or thought. Remember circumstances are things that are out of our control. They are statements that everyone would agree with. For example, There is a pandemic in the U.S. is a circumstance, but the pandemic is making my life miserable it a thought. My child having diabetes is a circumstance. Diabetes is a struggle is a thought. Once I clarify them I look at all the circumstances (probably most of them are thoughts) and then ask myself how I want to think about that circumstance.

Do I want to feel in control of my thought about that circumstance? What result do I want from thinking about that circumstance? Also what is my natural thought about that circumstance? Usually our default thought involves thinking we are going to die and that we need to be in survival mode all the time.

The next thing I do is go through and look at all of the thoughts I wrote down. I ask myself if those thoughts are serving me? What are the results of those thoughts? Are those thoughts that I would choose? Then I decide with intention to let go of the worry and try to manage what I have control over.

It sounds simple but it’s not easy. Our brains are designed to go to survival mode all the time. They are designed to think we are going to die and that we can’t do anything about it. So figure out what it is that you are worrying about and then decide how else you might be able to think about it.

Would you like help managing the worry? Would you like to take control over your life and thoughts about things you worry about? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and NEGATIVE EMOTION

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question:  Do you try and replace all negative emotion with positive emotion?

Do you try and resist and avoid negative emotion? What are your thoughts about experiencing negative emotion?

When we are able to experience negative feelings in our everyday lives, it is then that we can notice when we are actually feeling happy.  If you’re happy all the time do you even know that you’re happy?

I believe that happiness requires the presence of unhappiness. Without unhappiness, happiness cannot exist. They are two sides of the same coin.

Sometimes we forget this, and then we try and push unhappiness, disappointment, and fear away.  We think that something has gone terribly wrong because of their presence.

We prefer to only be present with our most happy, cheery, lovely selves. Social media is about presenting with our most happy, cheery, lovely selves.

Consider this: what if we were meant to feel negative emotion 50% of the time? What if that were true? How do you feel about that? For me, it normalizes my negative emotions. Rather than trying to shake them off, that thought allows me to open up to them, and fully experience them, and realize it’s part of my human experience.

Feeling negative emotion is doable. Resisting them is hard work.

Want help learning to manage negative emotion? Want to learn how to stop resisting and to own negative emotion? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?