DIABETES, DREAMS and DESIRES

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question: What do you want? Do you even know?

Why do desires and dreams even matter? If we are all wanting from a place of lack and scarcity, it can feel bad, and many of you would rather not want at all than be disappointed. Why even set a goal of a certain A1C when it might be a struggle to get there?

Think about this – you don’t have to justify your wants. You’re just allowed to want something because you do. How fun is that?

Imagine just wanting a lower A1C and then working to get there without any struggle. Let the struggle go. Just try your best. Let the self-judgement go.

So many of us try and over-explain our wants in life. It’s just not necessary. Want what you want and then go out and try and get it. If you get it…awesome. If you don’t…don’t use it as an opportunity to beat yourself up.

Don’t use diabetes as a way to be a victim, either. Don’t use diabetes as an excuse. Show up. Explore your deeper desires and dreams. What are they? Do you even know? So often, we bury our desires beneath a heavy layer of doubt.

Here’s the thing with that – you’re never going to regret believing in yourself. You will regret doubting yourself. Going all in is never regrettable.

You’re not always going to be successful. You know that diabetes is challenging and you can only do the best you can. You know you may have to try a few times and commit, but it will be worth it.

Desires nag at us; they never really go away. If we listen to them, they will lead us to a life where we feel most alive. When we don’t pay attention to our desires, we end up doing things to distract ourselves from them.

When you think about your desires, you can generate the emotions necessary to act on them. If you’re just living a life where you’re not looking at dreams and not looking at your desires, you stagnate in a mediocre life.

The more you honor and pay attention to your dreams, the more doubt you’re going to have. That’s where clearing the mind clutter can help. Do a thought download and put down all of your thoughts on a piece of paper. Just spend 10 minutes and then put back in the thoughts you like.

You choose which thoughts you like and want to keep. Keep the ones that inspire you towards your dreams and desires.

Let me help you explore your dreams and desires. I can help you figure out how to achieve them once you know what they are. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and APATHY

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question: Have you found yourself apathetic, lately?

I know I have been. I start with these great hopes, ideas, and goals. Then I get really excited. Before you know it, I’m thinking that there’s so many other things in my life that I need to do (diabetes related) instead and I slip into apathy and don’t commit to completing my goal.

Especially, during this pandemic. It seems I can come up with excuses to not complete goals pretty easy. It’s easy to be apathetic.

Apathy is one of the biggest dream stealers. It’s always easy since we can never be really apathetic about diabetes so the rest of our lives we give ourselves permission to take the easy route. It’s easy to be indifferent about living the potential of our lives, our dreams, and our biggest desires. They seem difficult and hard.

It’s easy to think that being apathetic somehow keeps us safe. Why stretch ourselves out there to complete a big goal, when raising a child with diabetes, is a big enough goal. Our brain tells us to just stay in default mode and not risk doing something else hard.

What I try and think about is my potential. I think about the possibilities for my life. How much energy, thought and creation do I want to devote to this one life? If my answer is zero, or very little, I’m being apathetic. I’m stuck in apathy about my potential and my possibility.

I realize that when I feel apathetic I don’t want to take action. I don’t want to create anything in the world. I don’t want to move forward. Giving in to apathy feels like a relief, initially, because it doesn’t require me to do anything.

However, the cost is high in the end. When I give in to apathy, I don’t exercise self-responsibility, which is the most empowering thing I can do. Self-care, self-discipline, structure, organization, and love – these are all the things that make us stronger and help us to realize our own potential.

When you’re unhappy and you turn to apathy as a way of dealing with it, this can lead to depression. Instead of embracing unhappiness as a part of the human experience and feeling awful, we avoid it and slip into apathy. Then we miss the opportunity to live a life where we are connected and alive.

We often have apathy for things we believe we cannot change, but the truth is, we can change our lives when we take responsibility. We can always change how we are experiencing something by how we think about it.

It’s your opportunity to live your life however you would like. You can live in default and you can be apathetic about the possibilities, or you can be willing to feel concern and care about what really matters to you. Don’t accept apathy as an option.

What is the potential in your life that you are missing out on? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and CHALLENGING RELATIONSHIPS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question: What makes a relationship challenging?

A challenging person…wouldn’t you agree? Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s your thoughts about the relationship that makes it challenging.

When we think of the difficult relationships we have in our lives, nine times out of ten, we are automatically going to blame the difficulty on the other person. It doesn’t really matter if we are talking about our spouse, a friend, or a child with diabetes. Challenging relationships are caused by our thoughts about that relationship.

How can that be? Especially when you could give me a list of evidence as to why that person is challenging. Whatever that person did or didn’t do is what is considered a circumstance. A circumstance is something outside of your control.  Other people are outside of your control.  As much as we think we can control others – we all have agency (free will).

So if other people’s actions are outside of your control. The only thing you can control are your thoughts about what they did or didn’t. And what they did or didn’t do is totally neutral. Remember, all circumstances are neutral until we have a thought about them.

Your thoughts about a relationship is what makes the relationship challenging. Plain and simple. I always coach clients to just be sure that they are making sure the thoughts they are CHOOSING to think, are serving them.

Yes, you choose thoughts about all relationships. You have the power to choose which relationships are challenging and which ones are not. The best thing is that your thoughts can change. You have the power to alter thoughts about relationships. You just want to be sure that you believe the thought you are choosing.

Also, awareness is always the best place to start when you want to change a challenging relationship. Be aware of what you are thinking about the relationship now. Take a few minutes to write down a thought download of all of your thoughts about a particular relationship. Then contemplate how you want those thoughts to change.

It’s often helpful to think about the result you want ahead of time. How do you want the relationship to be after you change your thoughts about it? It sounds crazy but it works. Decide what kind of relationship you want and then alter your thoughts to coincide with that result.

If you want that relationship to continue to be challenging then continue to think challenging thoughts. If you want that relationship to change and be loving, understanding, tolerable, etc. then slowly change your thoughts to alight with what you want.

You’re in charge of how you think about every relationship in your life, even the challenging ones.

Would you like me to help you improve your relationship with your child who has diabetes? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and STUDYING YOURSELF

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question: Have you ever committed to studying yourself?

What does it even mean to study yourself? I never thought of studying myself. I was so good at blaming and being a victim of diabetes but not good at applying and practicing thoughts on purpose.

I was going through life unwilling to study myself, and unwilling to show up in a way that uncovers my default mental programming, which hated diabetes. I was living based on thoughts that had be programmed inadvertently, and therefore, I was feeling a bit out of control. I wasn’t controlling my life – my life was controlling me.

What I did was to become aware of what I was thinking, evaluate it, and make sure I was thinking on purpose. Everything related to diabetes was on auto pilot. I hated it all. Diabetes chaos was what changed my life and I honestly wanted our lives to go back to our pre-diabetes life.

However, that’s not going to happen. So phase one of studying yourself and taking charge of your life is to understand the general concept that thoughts create feelings. Phase two is really getting some insight into your own specific thoughts, and how they’re causing your specific feelings. Then the next phase is really deciding to think about circumstances differently. The only thing that makes a circumstance negative or positive is how you think about it. Diabetes isn’t negative or positive until you have a thought about it.

The next phase is understanding that all emotions are harmless. You can experience any emotion, and you are the sole cause of your own emotion and other people are the sole cause of their emotions.

The last phase is really deciding what you want your results to be and manifesting them. If you think about any result you want in your life, you can figure out a way to get that using believable thoughts.

The last phase is to be able to pick and choose exactly what you want in your life and know ahead of time that you WILL accomplish it. This creates a sense of confidence, happiness, and joy that will underline everything you will do. Even when you are challenged, and even when you are uncomfortable, you will have that underlying peace and confidence that there’s nothing in the world that you can’t do.

The more you study yourself, the more you practice what you want in your life, the more you visualize, put yourself out there, and are willing to make mistakes, the more you can conquer the negative thoughts surrounding diabetes.

If you’re committed to managing your mind, committed to managing your emotional life, committed to managing your actions, there is literally nothing you can’t create in your life.

Would you like help managing your thoughts about diabetes? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?