DIABETES and SELF RESPONSIBILITY

DIABETES and SELF RESPONSIBILITY

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Do you blame diabetes or someone else for causing you to feel a certain way?

Any time we think something (diabetes) or someone else is causing us to feel a certain way, we are not taking responsibility for our feelings. We are delegating that responsibility to something or someone else.

Self-responsibility means accepting that you’re the one creating your feelings. You will need to choose to take responsibility for yourself again and again. Over and over again.

On default mode it is easiest to blame something or someone else. It’s living our life without intention. It’s giving all of our power, our destiny, our agency over to whatever we are blaming.

I used to blame diabetes, but the day I realized it wasn’t serving me or my son I began working on taking self-responsibility. Owning that it’s my thoughts that create the feelings about diabetes.

Feeling angry at diabetes doesn’t help anyone. It actually does that opposite. It leaves me powerless.

However, once I took self-responsibility, I had a tendency to blame myself. Since I wasn’t blaming diabetes I began blaming myself. That wasn’t useful or surely didn’t serve me.

I began to just take responsibility for all of my thoughts about diabetes. I just became aware of what my thoughts were and didn’t blame myself for them. Then I told myself that nothing had gone wrong in my life when diabetes arrived. I’m human living a human life and there are supposed to be challenges.

I realized that I had the power to decide how I respond to those challenges. All of my feelings are caused by a thought which is just a sentence in my brain. I slowly changed that sentence in my brain (my thoughts) about diabetes.

It was a slow process but the best work I’ve ever done for myself and my family. I practiced taking self-responsibility. My brain (and yours) is the most powerful tool on the planet. By taking responsibility for everything your brain does, you fully reclaim your power and your ability to use it as a tool.

That is the best news ever!

Would you like help taking full responsibility for your life and to stop blaming diabetes? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and PREFRONTAL POWER

DIABETES and PREFRONTAL POWER

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Are you using your prefrontal power to manage your diabetes or letting your automatic cerebellum decide for you in the moment?

We have two parts to our brain. Our prefrontal cortex, which is where we make conscious decisions and we have our cerebellum, which is our automatic consciousness and is efficient and already programmed.

Our prefrontal cortex is the most evolved part of our brains and it’s where our executive function occurs. It can decide ahead of time, create goals, envision dreams and devise plans.  It does things with intention. However it does use a lot of energy and effort.

Our cerebellum comes up with reactions, solutions, and actions very quickly without much energy involved. The brain likes to be efficient and it likes to expend as little energy as possible. It defaults to the pre-programmed brain whenever possible.

Because our brains like to be efficient, it likes to be familiar and comfortable. We have developed an attachment to the familiar in order to survive. The brain is not motivated to go in and re-evaluate things that it does efficiently. You have to direct your prefrontal to do that evaluation on purpose because it takes more effort and energy.

Many of us have neural pathways of desire that are in our brains, and we think those neural pathways are just part of our personalities. The fact is, we’ve learned to like something or not like something. Think about that automatic pathways that you have created in your brain that aren’t serving you. False desire is a neural pathway that produces a feeling of desire, but it’s not something you want, like the desire to overeat or overdrink.

Neural pathways are formed by paying attention to something and then repeating it over and over. You also can have a thought error in a neural pathway. It’s a thought that’s running in your brain that you haven’t looked at to decide whether or not it’s serving you.

Parts of our lives that we don’t care for and want to change, need effort and energy to change them. We need to activate our prefrontal power to change the old neural pathways. Slow, deliberate effort, consistently repeated is what changes the old habits in your life. It requires attention and repetition. It takes practice and effort.

If you want a different A1C result or if you want to stop allowing diabetes to dictate aspects of your life you have to use your prefrontal power to do that. You have to become aware of what your default setting is and then consciously go about changing it. Using small, simple, steps is the best way to change a habit.

Break it down to the smallest, simplest step and then slowly move forward with that step. Using your prefrontal power is what is necessary to move towards goals in the future. Your prefrontal planning power mode helps you make your dreams reality.

Use your highest executive prefrontal power to design your life instead of letting your automatic cerebellum decide for you in the moment.

Decide ahead of time how you want diabetes to impact your life. You can do that from a place of power and strength by using your prefrontal cortex or from a power of default using your cerebellum.

Would you like to learn how to engage your prefrontal power to improve the effect diabetes has on your life? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and ENERGY PRODUCING vs ENERGY DEPLETING

DIABETES and ENERGY PRODUCING vs ENERGY DEPLETING

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Do you create more energy producing or energy depleting emotions?

There are so many types of emotions. I used to live my life on default mode. Allowing my emotions to be in charge of me. I, honestly, didn’t know I could be in charge of them and create the emotions I wanted with intention.

How do your emotions work? Especially raising a child with diabetes? Do you allow blood sugar numbers to create emotions in your life every day, every hour? Remember that all of our feelings come from our minds. We think thoughts that create feelings. When we discover this, we realize that we can change how we are feeling.

Most of my clients start creating feelings they thought they want to feel. They want to feel good all the time so they believe that thinking happy thoughts will give them a happy emotion all the time.

Unfortunately, it usually doesn’t work that way since the thoughts have to be believable. You can’t go from hating diabetes to believing diabetes is the best thing for your family.  The best way to create thoughts and feelings are to generate them ahead of the result you’d like.

Sounds complicated, right? Well it’s just a new thought process. Also the number one indicator of the result you will create is how committed you are to feeling that emotion ahead of time. If you want to know what your results will be, check with your emotions. If your emotions are energy-producing, you will create that result in your life. If your emotion is energy-depleting, you will not create that result in your life.

The best predictor of your results is how you feel right now. Check in with yourself. How do you feel right now about creating that result in your life? If you can decide what emotion will get you to the result you want in your life and then take action from that feeling you will create the result.

Your thoughts (which you are totally in charge of) create your results by generating or depleting the energy that you need to create those results.

Here are some of the energy-producing emotions that fuel creation: motivated, disciplined, excited, inspired, fascinated, intrigued, curious, engrossed, amazed, attentive, focused, courageous, energetic, optimistic, thrilled, exhilarated, communicative, active, vigorous, earned, cooperative, reliable, stable, and composed.

In contrast, here are some of the energy-depleting emotions many of us indulge in. Confusion, self-pity, disheartened, despondent, cheerless, stumped, depressed, and doubtful are emotions that are going to deplete your energy.

Generating emotion is a new way of thinking, but it is a skill that is 100% available to us.

Once you are aware of those energy-depleting emotions, you understand that the reason you’re disheartened or doubtful is not because of your results. It’s because of what you are thinking so then you can change your thinking. You can change your pattern of thought to think in a way that generates the energy you need to create the result you want.

Want to learn how to generate energy-producing emotions? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and ACCOMPLISHING GOALS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes and YAY it’s my 100th blog post!

Today’s Question: Do you think that having a child with diabetes costs you your dreams?

I used to think that. However, I learned that what was costing me my dreams was confusion, doubt, and fear. It wasn’t diabetes. I realized that discomfort IS the currency to completing my dreams. It’s about being uncomfortable on purpose.

Confusion, doubt and fear all lead to inaction instead of fueling massive action. It’s massive action that leads you to your dreams. I understand that you are already taking action to manage diabetes but allowing diabetes to control all of your dreams is a choice. How I managed this was to pick one 30 day goal. Just one! Pick something you will DO and something you will CREATE.

The next thing to do is to write this down and will in the blanks with your particulars:

By (insert date and time), I will have completed and created (insert goal here). I will know I’m done because of (measurable stat).

Mine was: By (June 5th at 10 pm), I will have completed and created a book chapter. I will know I’m done because I get a finished chapter back from the editor.

Then answer these questions: Why do I want to achieve this goal? Why will I do it no matter what? Who will I be accountable to?

Now think about what the feelings are that you will need to feel instead of confusion, doubt and fear. You will need to replace them with feelings like: committed, excited, empowered, disciplined and willing. What is the thought you need that will drive you to action?

No brainstorm! Write down everything you need to do to accomplish this goal? Make a list on a blank piece of paper. The list does not have to be in order. Just write everything down you can think of. The more you can anticipate, the better.

Take that list and put it in order and then next to each one put ay obstacles you can anticipate stopping you from achieving that particular action. There will be obstacles and if you can turn each into a strategy you will accomplish your goal.

Create a final list of obstacles that will keep you from achieving your goal and the strategies you are going to use to overcome them. Turn each of the strategies into a skill you need to develop. Add it all to your list of to dos.

NOW…add it all to your calendar. Schedule it! You will not want to, but this will make everything so much easier. Take every single item and add it to your calendar. Be sure to schedule time for learning and for thinking. It all needs to be scheduled.

Remember that your future self will need to follow through on all of it, so be kind and thoughtful when scheduling.  1. Put the list in order. 2. Determine how much time everything will take. 3. Add it to the calendar on each day with time frames.

Believe. Commit. Achieve.

I can help you make your biggest dream come true! Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and BELIEFS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!

Today’s Question: Are there any restrictions on what we are allowed to believe?

What is a belief anyhow? A belief is just a thought you keep on thinking. What happens when you have a thought you keep on thinking? What happens when you’ve thought a thought so many times, you don’t even recognize that it’s a thought anymore?

You think it’s just real, you think it’s true.  You don’t recognize it’s a belief system, and belief systems are 100% optional.

We can believe anything we want. There is no restriction to what we are allowed to believe. We can believe that we are the best moms of a Type 1 diabetic ever. No one can tell us what we can or cannot think. There are so many things that people can do to us, but they can’t tell us what we’ll make it mean. They can’t tell us how it will feel emotionally.

You get to think whatever you want to think about anything that happens or has happened to you in your life. You also get to think whatever you want about the future. You get to decide what you believe about diabetes. Just be sure it serves you.

You can love whoever you want, no matter what. You don’t have to justify it. You can life what you want and believe what you want about yourself.

You can think you’re fantastic no matter what anyone else says. Remember, a believe is a thought you just keep on thinking. It’s something you have thought so often, you don’t even realize you’re thinking it. It’s a really deep neural pathway in your brain.

You can CHOOSE to believe something different. You can choose to create a new belief in your life. You can choose to questions any belief that isn’t serving you.

If you could believe anything you want about yourself, what would you believe? It’s an amazing question. Decide what you want to believe about yourself.

If a belief is a thought you keep on thinking, then creating new beliefs is simply picking a new thought and thinking on purpose enough until you truly believe it.

You don’t have to ask anyone’s permission.

You don’t have to ask your mom, your spouse, or your best friend.

They can all disagree with you and you can believe ANYTHING you want.

Best news ever!

If you could believe anything you wanted about yourself, what would it be? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?