DIABETES and HAPPINESS

DIABETES and HAPPINESS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Do you spend days wishing you could just be happy?

Guess what? There is no happiness that we are going to find in our future. That is…that we don’t already have access to right now. Happiness comes from a thought. A thought about something that makes you happy.

So if happiness comes from a thought, which is just a sentence in our brain, then what is stopping us from creating happiness right now. Our thoughts!  Correct!

What is it that stops us from creating happiness? For me it’s that I don’t want to be happy all the time. I want to be sad when something terrible happens. I want to be sad or disappointed when I don’t get the results I’ve been working towards.

However, I understand that I don’t want happiness at those points. I choose to be sad. I like to live my life with intention so choosing my emotion is the best way I know how. Also that means I get to choose happiness with intention, as well. Remember true happiness can only come from a thought that’s believable. If you just tell yourself a thought that you’d like to believe, it can’t create true happiness. It’s a process.

However, if you are working on thoughts you’d like to believe, try a few out, and work through a process of changing your brain so that thought becomes believable. First become aware of what thoughts are creating which results. Second understand that those thoughts are optional and slowly change your thought process to incorporate the new thought. Third your brain becomes rewired to believe that new thought.

The process doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time and dedication. It takes being uncomfortable, but it is so worth the effort. Knowing that you can choose how you think about a situation is truly powerful. Knowing that it’s up to you to decide, is the best news ever.

You get to decide how you want diabetes to impact your life. You get to choose which thoughts serve you and which don’t.

Want help exploring the thoughts you have about diabetes? Want to choose happiness more often intentionally? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and OVERCOMING ANXIETY

DIABETES and OVERCOMING ANXIETY

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: What do you do when diabetes anxiety shows up?

When anxiety begins to take hold in your body, you have two options. You can choose to notice it, watch it, and say to yourself, “Oh hello there, anxiety. I see you.”

Or you can choose to resist the anxiety, try to change it, or ignore it. Which do you do when diabetes anxiety shows up in your day?

When we push against anxiety, we tense up and feel worse. That was my go to initially upon diagnosis. I would resist it all. The other option is to ignore it. I did this, too. I was trying so hard to not to have it impact my life that I didn’t actually gain any mastery over it.

However, when I learned to quietly watch my anxiety, I learned how to breathe deeply into it. Inhaling into the deepest part of my belly, and then really concentrating on exhaling.

Do you know what exhaling can do? It can set you up to breathe better. It can set you up to realize that anxiety is just pretending to be necessary. Is diabetes anxiety even necessary?

I thought it was just part of the diagnosis. Diabetes and anxiety went together. But noticing I was feeling anxious was the first step to managing it. It helped when I realized when I was feeling anxious. I understood that anxiety was just a vibration, caused by my thoughts, and it couldn’t hurt me. That is unless I denied having it and then I’m sure it could have health consequences.

However, understanding anxiety is just an emotion allows me to gain power over it.  But…my brain would have me believe otherwise. It would have be believe that I was going to die unless I managed everything perfectly.

Guess what? It won’t. The best thing about anxiety is that it’s best understood through acceptance and breathing.

Anxiety will have you believe that every bolus could be a life or death decision. Anxiety will yell, “this could be the end of the world,” when all we really have to do is to maintain our decision making process and continue to be aware, learn, and grow.

Did you know that you can practice being in control of your anxiety? This is such a good exercise to try if you experience anxiety regularly. Give yourself 10 minutes a day to worry. Really worry. During that time, try and actually increase your anxiety. See if you can make it bigger and worse. It’s counterintuitive, but when we can make it worse, we see that we are in control over it.

Once we realize we can increase it, we learn that we can also decrease it. That’s magical.

Want help managing your anxiety around diabetes? Want to learn how to stop resisting and ignoring anxiety? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and CIRCUMSTANCES

DIABETES and CIRCUMSTANCES

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Do you believe that diabetes is just a circumstance?

The whole mindset around diabetes and taking control over your life and the impact diabetes has on it stems from diabetes being a circumstance. A circumstance to me is something that’s a fact. Just a fact. It is totally neutral. When I try and determine if something is a circumstance I ask myself if it can be proven and if 99.9% of the world would agree with that statement.

So…can it be proven that my child has diabetes? Yes. Would 99.9% of the world agree that my child has diabetes? Yes. That makes diabetes a circumstance.

That’s the best news ever. That means that diabetes is neutral. It means it is not negative or positive until I have a thought about it. About now you are arguing with me saying that it’s negative. Let’s ask the same questions of diabetes but in that diabetes is negative.

So…can it be proven that my child’s diabetes is negative? I can surely find scientific evidence that it is but is there be evidence that it’s positive? I actually know people who have found evidence that diabetes is positive. Their child is more responsible because of diabetes. Their child is more compassionate because of diabetes. Their child eats healthier because of diabetes. They have a stronger bond because of diabetes.

Thus diabetes being negative is not a circumstance. It’s not a fact. Best News EVER! That means we both get to decide what We want to believe about diabetes. We can intentionally decide. We have a choice. Doesn’t sound possible? It is.

I actually had a client who was thankful for diabetes. Their child was thought to have cancer and it ended up to be diabetes. They were thankful. Diabetes is neutral until you have a thought about it.

You get to decide how to think about diabetes. Take some time to examine your thoughts. Think about what’s believable to you. As I tell my clients, you can’t go from being angry and hating diabetes one day to loving it and feeling blessed to have diabetes in your life the next. It’s a process. It takes time and it only works if you are willing to embrace the change. Embrace the discomfort that will get you there. If you are willing to process the negative emotion you have about diabetes first.

It doesn’t mean that you are going to jump for joy that your child has diabetes. That’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying that you get to figure out the results you want for your life and how you think about diabetes. My belief is that if you look for the bad you’ll find it, but also true is if you look for the good, you will find it, too.  Look for the silver lining this week. It’s there.

Want help exploring what diabetes means to you and your family? Want to explore new thoughts and what those results would be in your life if you thought them? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and SO WHAT?

DIABETES and SO WHAT?

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Have you ever asked yourself, “So what are you making having a child with diabetes mean?”

Until recently I never did. I never thought I had a choice in what I made it mean. I thought that it was awful and I would spend my life being a victim of it. I thought that diabetes would control my world and the world of my son.

Guess what? I was wrong. I realized that our brain is a very sophisticated device that can take a lot of input and filters out what’s unimportant. What we tell our brain is important and it’s what our brain looks for. Our brain has to be told what matters. If it’s not told, it will just operate on default.

I operated on default for years. It was what I needed to do. However, there’s a better way. I realized that if you have a belief system you haven’t chosen consciously, your brain will continually look for evidence to prove those true.

I learned it’s important to direct our thinking because our thoughts create our feelings, and our feelings are really the most important thing to us. Our brain’s main motivation is to feel less pain and to feel more comfort. Our thoughts are constantly creating our feelings, so we need to be aware of what we’re choosing to think. Most of us have no idea what we’re choosing to think. We’re just feeling whatever we’re feeling by default.

When you ask yourself, “So what? What are you making diabetes mean?” this will reveal your thinking. Just asking yourself this question can completely set you free because it makes you realize that everything after that question is the story you’re spinning. It’s not reality.

There’s so much power in becoming aware of your belief system and noticing what you’re finding evidence for. It’s a beautiful thing when we see evidence for things that make us feel empowered and positive, but most of us are using our brains to create evidence for something negative, and it’s bringing us a result we don’t want.

You get to tell the story of your life. That’s one of the gifts you have as a human being. You get to make up the meaning you give to everything. You can make it mean something wonderful and amazing, or you can make it mean something terrible and awful.

It’s your choice. So what are you going to make it mean that you have a child with diabetes?

Want help exploring what you are making diabetes mean in your life? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?