DIABETES and KNOWING vs NOT KNOWING

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Do you say, “I don’t know” often?

When we say, “I don’t know” we are denying our own wisdom. It’s about not wanting to be conscious, no wanting to move forward, and not wanting to figure it out. “I don’t know” does not serve you. That one phrase blocks all access to your ability to discover answers.

Knowing something means you believe in your conscious thought. Not knowing means you’re not believing something or you haven’t made it conscious, yet. Instead of saying, “I don’t know,” I encourage you to say, “I’m figuring it out,” or “I’m finding the answer.”

The only way you can know something is by making the unknown, which is your unconscious mind, known. I suggest that you do a thought download. Unload all of your current thoughts onto a piece of paper for 5 minutes.  Pay attention to what’s going on in your mind.

What are your current thoughts? Are they something you feel in control of? What are your thoughts about diabetes? Do you control diabetes or does diabetes control you?

When we say, “I don’t know.” We are resisting and avoiding that thing. Our brain wants us to only do what’s familiar and efficient, so it tries to keep us in the known, the routine, and in efficiency. When our brain wants to explore the unknow there is a biological reaction of danger and fear.

The first step of going into the unknown is to refuse to say or think, “I don’t know.” Saying it stops your brain from looking for answers. One of the best ways to know something is to try a bunch of things that don’t work.

Become aware of what you do know. That’s a great way to begin lots of sentences. “Here’s what I know for sure.” Any time a question is asked of you and your knee-jerk reaction is to say, “I don’t know, “ instead say, “Well, here’s what I do know,” and start listing the things that you know instead of focusing on the thing you think you don’t’ know.

You’ll never know it, if you keep telling yourself you don’t know.

You either know, or you’re finding the answer.

Let me help manage your thoughts so that you no longer stop figuring out solutions by telling yourself, “I don’t know.” . Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and ACCEPTANCE REQUIRES EFFORT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Can you possibly accept the past as if you had chosen it?

If you could it surely would require some effort. The definition of acceptance is the action of consenting, and I just love the idea that we have the option to consent. I’m not saying that you have to, but wouldn’t it be easier if we could just accept diabetes into our lives and not continue to fight against it?

If you could genuinely consent as if you had chosen it – wouldn’t your life be so much better if you agreed and accepted everything that has happened in your past? I don’t think we should think that it’s been all rainbows and puppy tails but take it all as feedback to move yourself and your family forward with intention.

What would it be like to not argue with the fact that your child has diabetes? Not to think that your life should be different than it is? Not to think that it would be better without diabetes?

I’ve found that my life is exponentially better by having accepted it. It isn’t that I love diabetes but I have embraced it. I have taken the blood sugar numbers as feedback.  I no longer allow them to dictate my day.  They are very important numbers and I treat them with great respect but my management of them was clouded by judgement.

Once we get into self judgement it distracts our brain from moving forward and managing the issue at hand. So acceptance, which required work and continues to requires work, has actually allowed me to maintain better numbers.

The best way to accept diabetes is to just become aware of  what your thoughts are and then to ask yourself, “Are these thoughts serving me?”  If they are, keep them. If they aren’t, like my thoughts often aren’t, I ask myself what the is the result I want from having diabetes in my life. That result is that I want diabetes to empower me to be the best mom and how I do that is to think that diabetes makes me stronger and more capable of overcoming obstacles.

Some days this is believable and others it takes more work to get to that thought.  Remember we are all a work in progress. We can let diabetes dictate our lives or we can take control over our thoughts and control the narrative that we tell ourselves about diabetes.

If you’d like to take more control over your narrative then please join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and REALITY

DIABETES and REALITY

Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes.

Today’s Question: Is your life how you imaged it would be?

I know mine surely wasn’t when my son was diagnosed with diabetes.  I had an idea of how it was supposed to be and that was the problem. The image of what my life should look like with four children did not align with my reality.

So I did what most of us do…argue against reality for years. I fought against diabetes because it wasn’t in any version of what I imaged for my life, or for my son. I realized I argued with lots of parts of my reality. Then I realized the reason I was unhappy was that my reality did not match what I thought my life should look like.

The next thing I realized is that there was no upside to thinking my life should be different than it was. The thought that someone else was doing it better than I was, totally didn’t help

I realized that no one is doing it 100% right, no one is doing it 100% wrong and no one had a better life. I realized that I needed to stop waiting for a better version of my life to start enjoying. I needed to stop waiting for my circumstance to change, for there to be a cure, an easier way to manage diabetes or something outside of myself to change to be happy.

I decided that I can have the life of my dreams, even with diabetes. I can have this human, imperfect life, and still be happy. However, I needed to stop living on default mode and start managing my mind.

I let go of the thought that my life should be good and easy. Also that it shouldn’t include diabetes.  Instead I expected it to be hard and to do the work necessary to be happy. I decided to stop arguing with reality.

Also I realized that the reason I was willing to do hard work was just not to be happy, but to learn and grow. I decided that just being happy wasn’t the goal it was wanting to change the world, wanting to contribute, and waiting to keep growing.

Diabetes, surely, allows me to do that.

Want to stop arguing with reality and begin to embrace it? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?