DIABETES and PREDICTABILITY

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Are you living a predictable life? (Yep…this photo is definitely not predictable)

What is predictable, anyway? Behaving in a way that is expected.  As parents of children with diabetes it’s important to be predictable in how we show up for our child. How we manage blood sugar numbers, always have insulin and diabetic supplies, keep juice and glucagon available at all times….along with lots of other check list items.

However, there are areas in our lives that we should not be predictable. We should not get up every day and do the same exact thing – even though our brains love it. They love to do the same things every day. They love living on default mode. It’s easy, doesn’t take much energy, and of course, we don’t push ourselves to do something outside of the norm.

What happens when we are predictable in our life goals. Do you think that others could predict what you will be doing in 10 years? I spent some time thinking about what my life would look like in 2030. I’m hoping you did. It’s worth some time.

Why spend time thinking about 2030? Because if you take control over your future, the future you…you can choose what you want to have accomplished. You can dream as big as you’d like. That’s what comes first…the dream!

After the dream…you can get to work making that dream come true. It won’t magically appear in ten years but if you think it and have a compelling reason for why you want it to come true – Guess What…it will come true. Yes you need a “HARD WHY”!

Believing something is possible and then thinking it enough that it becomes something that you can imagine for yourself….the “how” to accomplish it will show itself to you. It actually becomes possible and then your new thought becomes, “As good as done.”

I pick visions of myself that are outside of what I think is possible right now. I then look for others who have accomplished that goal. Yes, there must moms who have a child with diabetes that has accomplished a goal you dream of. Then let your brain begin to believe that it’s possible for you. Before you know it you actually start looking for ways to accomplish it and the “how” presents itself.

I always set goals from a place of excitement and abundance. I set them from a place of truly wanting them. Because when it gets tough and my default (primitive) brain wants me to just go back to being predictable I will need a big enough reason why to overcome those thoughts (In coaching lingo that’s the “Hard Why”!

I believe that you can step outside of what’s predictable for you. Set a goal of what’s not predictable in the next year? Set a goal that’s not predictable in the next 10 years?

Of course, living life as a mom who continues to predictably and unconditionally show up to manage diabetes is essential in building a bigger life that’s unpredictable.

I can help you with developing a life on purpose. Living a life that’s not predictable every day. You can take charge of your default brain. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and MENTAL FITNESS

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Do you have a New Year’s Resolution that involves mental fitness?

I used to only add going to the gym and working out to my New Year’s Resolutions but the last couple years I have been adding mental fitness to my list.

Mental fitness is making sure that you are continuing to work on personal growth and your mindset. It’s making sure that you are not just sailing along but choosing your life on intention.

We all have what I call, “primitive” or “default” brain settings. It’s what takes over when we don’t intentionally do the work to manage our thoughts and our lives. It’s the brain that is in charge and prioritizes the primitive triad.

It prioritizes conserving energy, avoiding pain and seeking pleasure. This sounds wonderful when we were all living in a cave and on survival mode but now what happens is that our “primitive” brain argues for limitations.

Your brain wants to be on auto pilot. Your brain loves auto pilot. It loves to repeat the same work. However, there isn’t any growth or challenge on auto pilot. Your primitive brain wants you to go into overwhelm and confusion every time you go off auto-pilot.

Your brain is like a computer, a super sophisticated computer, but instead of programing it and upgrading it, you just run it on auto-pilot. This year think about a program upgrade. One that will help you start believing what you are really capable of….

Start to think about what it will take to prioritize mental fitness, not just physical fitness. Start to be aware of the things in your life you want to change. Start to think about new goals that you’d like to accomplish.

Awareness is the first step. Once you are aware then you can analyze what you’d like to change. Remember if you want to change you will need a compelling reason why. This reason will carry you through the difficult times when you aren’t sure if you really want to change anything.

I set a goal and after exploring the reasons I want the goal…I contemplate whether my “why” is compelling enough. Am I willing to do the work…to be uncomfortable to reach the goal.

The WHY has to come before the HOW. You will want to know how to do it before you figure out your why. The how just gets in the way of making sure you want it bad enough. If you figure out your WHY first, then when things get difficult you will continue to move forward towards your goal. The HOW will come when you want the goal bad enough. Trust me you will figure out how!

Put mental fitness on your list of things to work on this year. Mental fitness has value in taking charge of your thoughts and how you view the world around you.

I can help you with managing your default brain and its thoughts about diabetes. I can help you explore how to take charge of your life. You can take charge of your default brain. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and ACCEPTANCE

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Have you accepted diabetes as part of your life?

What if you accepted diabetes like you would have chosen it? What if you stopped blaming diabetes and being a victim of it? What do you think would change in your life?

For me everything changed. I gave myself permission to choose happiness. I gave myself permission to believe that diabetes was an opportunity for all of us to become more…serve more, have more insight, grow more, and even enjoy more.

However, giving yourself permission to accept diabetes doesn’t just magically change your world. It truly takes effort, because if you want a different result in your life you have to practice different thoughts. You have to practice feeling different emotions. Yes it takes practice, it takes effort and it will be uncomfortable.

The definition of acceptance is “the action of consenting.” It means living in every moment with every emotion, with everything that’s happened to you and saying that you consent to it all. It means that you would choose it.

At first, I was like that’s just crazy, “Who would choose diabetes?” No one. But what if I could truly believe that I would choose it and then believe that all the emotions, the highs, the lows, (literally and emotionally) could serve me to be a better mom, a better person.

Once I got to the point that just maybe diabetes made me a better mom then my lens on the world opened up. It was like a weight was lifted. I didn’t have to hate diabetes. I didn’t have to live my life as a victim. I no longer had to argue with what was. I no longer had to believe that life should be different. No longer believed life would be better without diabetes.

What if you could accept diabetes as something you would choose? Consider accepting all the facts in your life, all the circumstances in your life that you don’t have the ability to change, to consent to all those things, to accept all those things.

How willing are you to accept diabetes as something you would choose? How willing are you to believe that by the end of 2020 you could be living a life that you create on purpose?

Acceptance requires effort. It requires effort to believe. It requires effort to let go of all the anger and contrasting thoughts. That’s true for our past and present, but if you can accept everything that happened, you will get better at accepting, and you will start to accept the things you can’t yet believe.

Accepting is not giving up. It’s not believing that life in the future will be better. It’s using effort to make that future life better. It’s doing the work on yourself to make your life better.

The present is only here to teach you what you need to know and believing that the future is your property is essential. Taking ownership of your future, your property, can happen.

All you have to do is claim your future and accept that anything you want is possible. Anything you have the power to imagine, you have the power to create in your life. The minute you genuinely, truly accept it, it will be as good as done. I promise you this.

Put effort into consenting, into accepting diabetes and see what you can create in your life.

Let me help you change your life and stop fighting diabetes. Let me help you create a life that you claim as your own, a life that you choose with intention. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and PADDLING YOUR BOAT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Are you just floating along where ever life takes you or have you picked up your paddles and steering your life with intention?

We are all on this boat ride called life. Yep in a boat and you can just float along with the current and the waves or you can pick up the paddles and steer your life with intention. Will it take effort? Yes!  Will it be worth it? Yes!

It’s easy to just float along even through the storms of life but then we end up in this blame and shame game. We end up blaming others for the storms or feeling shame because of our inability to manage the storms.

We can spend our lives just get through the storms. We all have storms – both predicted storms and spontaneous ones. I used to just manage each storm as it came up. I used to manage in survival mode. I felt pretty good in survival mode but wasn’t really in charge of where I was going with my life.

What’s your life look like? Are you just managing from blood sugar to blood sugar? Are you just managing from supply order to supply order?

It’s a way of life that might work for you. I’m hoping that for our new decade coming up that you think about not just riding the waves and letting life take you and your boat where ever it might go BUT you decide to pick up your paddles and steer towards your life with intention.

How do can we pick up our paddles? It starts with awareness. Awareness of where you are and where you want to be. Take notice of what parts of your life you love and what parts you don’t.

Start to become aware of the parts of your life you don’t like. Those parts are ones you can change. Ones you can take initiative to alter. How do we alter them? We decide what we would like to change and then consciously decide what we want to change them to….what is it that you want instead.

Remember that we only become better at what we practice. If you have practiced for years (unknowingly) to have your life drift along and just survive you will need to consciously begin to practice different thoughts and different habits and actions.

But for now just be aware of where you are drifting and where you’d like to steer your boat to instead. Think about picking up your paddles and slowly venturing towards a life of intention. A life full of curiosity and intention.

You can decide to be curious about diabetes and its impact on your family. You can decide to stop being a victim of diabetes and make it an opportunity to take charge of your destiny.

Become aware of where you are and where you want to be…then let me help you start paddling towards your goal. DREAM BIG, my friend, and PADDLE HARD – it’s always worth it!

Let me show you how a session with a certified life coach can change the direction of your life. It can change your thoughts about diabetes. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and FAILING

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Have you become good at failing?

Are you afraid of failing or of admitting you failed? I surely used to be and once in a while I still am, but I realized that I won’t get better at anything that I don’t practice. Actually becoming good at failing means you’re learning and growing.

Practicing anything that you’re not good at involves a risk of failure. The most common feelings when we think of failing are shame and guilt.

Shame focuses on yourself and guilt focuses on your behavior. Shame is saying, “I’m sorry I am a mistake” and guilt is saying, “I’m sorry I made a mistake.”  However, both of these emotions hinder your forward progress towards improvement.  Failing doesn’t hinder it. Failing actually is essential to getting better at something. It means you are trying. It’s your negative thoughts about failing that hinder progress.

Guilt and shame will never serve you. They just get in the way of forward progress. What SHOULD you take from failing?

You should take failing as feedback. It’s feedback so that when you try again you might succeed. Feedback which allows yourself to grow and learn. If you never fail you never grow.

The best thing to try and do is to own your weaknesses. We all have them and as parents of children with diabetes we have plenty of them (especially when our children are newly diagnosed).

Weaknesses just give us opportunities for personal growth. You don’t have to make it mean anything more than that. Weaknesses don’t have to have a negative sigmatism to them. They don’t have to mean that you aren’t good enough. All they have to mean is you have an opportunity to improve in that area (if you choose to).

When I first became a mom of a T1D I made all high and low blood sugar levels mean that I was failing as a mom. Looking back that wasn’t necessary. Those numbers just meant I had more to learn and also that diabetes is a difficult disease to manage.

I think we can all agree that diabetes has so many variables that affect blood sugar numbers. A bit of self-care and self-love goes a long way to allowing us to grow from the experience. Allowing us to open up to learning and understanding all of the intricacies of managing diabetes.

When you go to a place of guilt and shame there’s no opportunity to learn and grow. Let go of the self-judgement. It only brings you to a place of victim mentality, which won’t move you forward. Failure is just feedback. Taken as feedback failing is an opportunity.

As a mom of a child with diabetes take each blood sugar number just as feedback and adjust from there. Don’t add the drama. Know that what you are doing is enough.

You are the perfect mom for your child. Unconditional love for yourself is as important as unconditional love for your child.

I’d love to help you learn how to take every blood sugar number and every A1C as feedback. I’d love to help you to leave all the self-judgement behind.. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and What Should I TOLERATE

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Do you have a mental list of what you should and shouldn’t tolerate?

Before you can figure out what you will or won’t tolerate, you should clean up your mind. Clean up your thoughts. Get to a place where you are responsible for your own emotions. Once you get to that place, you get to decide what your response will be to someone else’s action.

When someone else does or says something you get to decide whether or not you tolerate it. That’s in your control. My suggestion is that you think about the result you want before you make a decision.

Weighing the result you want keeps you in control. It means you get to retain all of your power in that situation…instead of giving it away. When you decide the result you want then you will then know what action you should take. From the action you will understand the feeling you will get and the thought that will give you that feeling.

To tolerate or to not tolerate comes from a thought. It’s a thought that creates the feeling you desire that triggers the action and which reaps the results.

I always have a few basic things that were at the core of my thoughts – they are unconditional love, health and happiness – along with personal growth, curiosity, integrity and purpose. Those are my core strengths and desires.

Do you have core strengths and desires that are your GPS to what you will tolerate? I developed a personal mission statement a few years ago which makes its easier to guide me on what I will and won’t tolerate.

My mission statement evolves. It has changed a few times – adding things that become important to me as I grow and life changes.

Do you have a personal mission statement that is the basis of what you will tolerate?

When it comes to tolerating things what’s essential is you decide on purpose. You decide with intention. You decide from a place of freedom. Remember you are 100% loveable and worthy. What you tolerate from others about diabetes needs to be thought about. Yes, sometimes it’s instinctive. It’s your momma bear instinct coming out and lashing out, but the best way is to come from a place of power, a place of intention, and a place of control.

What’s important is that you don’t ever make a decision based on what you think other people think you should do, or what you think society would say you should do, or any preconceived ideas about what the other person should or shouldn’t be doing.

I’d love to help you design a personal mission statement that can help guide you towards freedom of what you will and won’t tolerate. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and SELF-DISCIPLINE

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Do you honor your commitments?

Discipline is your ability to have self-control and restraint against things your primitive brain desires. Your brain has a lower level (primitive) and a high level function. The primitive brain is the default and when you don’t pay attention to your thoughts and you let them run on default mode – they just want to take the path of least resistance and avoid any discomfort.

However, discipline brings freedom and a peaceful existence – along with discomfort and strength.

Willpower is part of discipline and it can be improved and grown. The more willpower you have, the more restraint you have, the more self-control you have, and the more discipline you will have.

Embrace discipline as the very secret to your freedom and to your success. Freedom to be in control of your life and not to live your life in default mode. Not to live your life always in response to what happened, but in control of making it happen. Discipline allows you to be proactive.

To create more discipline, set expectations and rules for yourself ahead of time, and then honor those rules. When you do this, you don’t have to use willpower and restraint in the moment of challenge. The willpower is already developed ahead of time.

The more you set up all of your decisions ahead of time, the less reactive you will be in the moment, especially when it comes to diabetes. Having a plan and sticking to that plan always gave me strength even if that planned changed. I still had a plan  – a foundation/structure from where I made decisions in place.

When you make a commitment and then honor that commitment to yourself by not giving yourself the option to optout or quit. That’s true discipline. I found success in this because it taught me to not make commitments unless I truly found value in what I was committing to. I no longer made haphazard commitments. When someone asked me to do something I used to just always say yes and then figure out whether or not I could follow through after I committed.

Practicing self-control, practicing restraint, is what makes you stronger. It’s understanding the commitment and then following through. It’s not saying yes and figuring out if the commitment will work for you.

The more you use your discipline and honor your commitments, the more willpower, restraint, and discipline you will have at your disposal to use to fuel your success and happiness.

When you honor your own decisions, you get better at it. You’ve practiced it. If you do it in one area of your life, you get better at it in all areas of your life. Discipline in one area applies to every area.

Using discipline by making a plan for yourself ahead of time, and then honoring that plan will create a relationship with yourself based on integrity and honor.

The more integrity you have with yourself, the better your relationship with yourself will be. You’ll be able to ask more of yourself and be willing and able to create more discipline and success.

I would love to help you with creating more discipline, willpower and success in your life. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and Harnessing the PLACEBO EFFECT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Have you ever tried harnessing the Power of the Placebo Effect to positively affect diabetes?

As a parent of a child with diabetes have you ever considered that the placebo effect could help diabetes control? What actually is the definition of a placebo effect? It’s the beneficial effect produced by a placebo drug or treatment, which cannot be attributed to the properties of the placebo itself, and must therefore be due to the patient’s belief in that treatment.

It basically is saying that your mindset, your beliefs, your thoughts and your expectations about diabetes creates results in your life. Results that can be either positive or negative.

I watched a TEDMED talk this week by Alia Crum, PhD about Harnessing the Power of Placebos. Dr. Crum researched the fact that the mere fear of something created the side effects of what was feared. Your fear of diabetes increases the likelihood that whatever you fear will come true. The opposite is also true.

If your mindset is such that you view diabetes as an opportunity to be a better mom, to believe that having diabetes in your family will create stronger family bonds, to think that diabetes will be an avenue for your family to increase their ability to overcome obstacles and gain personal strength, then the placebo effect states that this mindset will shape the outcome of having diabetes.

How can we as moms get to the place where we actually believe these thoughts? How can we choose to see diabetes as a gift to our family? The place to start is with awareness. Being aware of what your thoughts are now about diabetes. Once you explore what your thoughts are now you can explore whether those thoughts are serving you.

Changes in your words about diabetes will change your feeling about diabetes and your actions about diabetes. It will alter how your child views diabetes.

I am not saying that you should be jumping for joy about diabetes, but what I am saying is that you get to choose the lens you put on your life because of diabetes. What lens do you want your child looking through?

A lens of hope and perseverance? A lens of strength and courage? Or a lens of anger and disappointment? A lens of blame and helplessness?

There is research that proves that we can help remove unnecessary suffering through our mindset, which will help our own body’s natural healing abilities. Imagine if our mindset was one of positivity how that would affect the life of our child.

Let me help you create an intentional mindset. A mindset that helps reinforce and harness the positive power of the placebo effect. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and being THANKFUL

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Are you thankful for diabetes?

Crazy, right?  Being thankful for something as awful as diabetes…how can that be. Well, diabetes absolutely changes your life, but what if you could think about diabetes and be thankful?

How can that happen? Well, how does any feeling happen? We think a thought and it creates a feeling in us. When we think of people we love, it can create a feeling of being thankful. Everyone gets to choose their own thought that brings up feelings of being thankful. For some people it’s puppies, for others it’s running marathons, for others it’s waking up alive.

We all have a perspective of what being thankful is. We all have a particular lens that we look through that makes us thankful. What if your lens could help you be thankful when you think about diabetes?

Remember that your thoughts are always your choice. You get to choose how you think about diabetes. You get to choose a thought that serves you or a thought that makes you a victim. You get to decide on purpose how diabetes controls your life or you can choose to live on default mode and give diabetes all of your power. Yes, you can even live your life blaming diabetes for everything terrible in your life. I know because I did that for years.

Whatever you choose be sure to choose it with intention. Try not to live on default mode because living on default mode just means you are making a decision not to be in charge – not to be accountable, not to be responsible for the results in your life.

Choose the tougher road. Choose the one that takes courage and determination. Choose the one that says you are thankful for diabetes. Choose the one that understands diabetes can bring goodness into your life. You get to pick.

I was a victim of diabetes. I blamed diabetes (still do once in a while). Mostly I choose to be thankful. Thankful that we have the opportunity to be stronger, more loving, more committed, more understanding, and more devoted as a mom…because of diabetes. Do I have bad days, absolutely. Do I let those bad days dictate where I’m going in this life, absolutely not.

I’m thankful for diabetes. I’m thankful that my son and husband never complain. I’m thankful that they show me every day how to be a better mom and wife.

You can CHOOSE to be thankful, too.

Let me help you learn how to take control of your thoughts about diabetes. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?

DIABETES and being in the DRIVER’S SEAT

Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!

Today’s Question is: Are you sitting in the passenger seat of your life expecting to direct where your life goes?

Do you actively make choices in your life? What’s a choice, anyhow? It’s the act of making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities. There were days when diabetes entered my life that I didn’t or thought I just couldn’t make another decision. I just wanted time to move by and for diabetes to move on. Well we know how that went. Diabetes stayed! Diabetes did not move on!

However, I finally found the strength to make a decision. If diabetes was here to stay then I would have to be the one to change – to move on. I finally had the strength to realize I had a choice. Yes, it took strength and courage to realize I had a choice.

What’s easy is not making a choice. It’s easy to not make any decision, but honestly it brings on a feeling of being stuck. Not choosing enables a feeling of being a victim. If you don’t want to be a victim of diabetes – if you want to stop blaming diabetes then you have to first realize you have a choice.

Awareness and realization is essential. It allows you to take some of your power back from diabetes. It allows you be in charge. Regardless of what you choose, the act of making a decision is BIG!

It means you are taking responsibility. It means you are accountable. It’s one of the best gifts I can give myself. It’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself. Make a decision and own it. If it’s not the right one, guess what? Then you get to own it and make another one.

The key is to always make the decision from a place of love. Make a decision based on love for yourself or for others. If you make the decision and the result is not what you anticipated then know you had good intention. Then you have no reason to judge yourself.

The only way to be free of judgement is to not judge yourself. You can let the result be feedback on how to make the next decision but judging yourself will never help you to make a better decision.

Additionally, allowing the judgement of others to affect you will not help you either. Someone else’s judgment is a reflection of them not a reflection of you. Their judgement is seen through their lens. As a mom of a T1D I believe my lens is different.

A person’s lens is not right or wrong. It’s just a way they view the world from their perspective. Just know that your choice, your decision to do or not to do something is correct for you. It doesn’t have to be correct for everyone, nor should it.

Make choices that move your life forward. Make choices that you own. Make choices that put you in the driver’s seat of your life. Don’t sit in the passenger seat and expect to end up where you want to be in your life.

Let me help you on your journey to making decisions and making choices that you can own and feel good about. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching.  Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?