Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!
Today’s Question is: Have you become good at failing?
Are you afraid of failing or of admitting you failed? I surely used to be and once in a while I still am, but I realized that I won’t get better at anything that I don’t practice. Actually becoming good at failing means you’re learning and growing.
Practicing anything that you’re not good at involves a risk of failure. The most common feelings when we think of failing are shame and guilt.
Shame focuses on yourself and guilt focuses on your behavior. Shame is saying, “I’m sorry I am a mistake” and guilt is saying, “I’m sorry I made a mistake.” However, both of these emotions hinder your forward progress towards improvement. Failing doesn’t hinder it. Failing actually is essential to getting better at something. It means you are trying. It’s your negative thoughts about failing that hinder progress.
Guilt and shame will never serve you. They just get in the way of forward progress. What SHOULD you take from failing?
You should take failing as feedback. It’s feedback so that when you try again you might succeed. Feedback which allows yourself to grow and learn. If you never fail you never grow.
The best thing to try and do is to own your weaknesses. We all have them and as parents of children with diabetes we have plenty of them (especially when our children are newly diagnosed).
Weaknesses just give us opportunities for personal growth. You don’t have to make it mean anything more than that. Weaknesses don’t have to have a negative sigmatism to them. They don’t have to mean that you aren’t good enough. All they have to mean is you have an opportunity to improve in that area (if you choose to).
When I first became a mom of a T1D I made all high and low blood sugar levels mean that I was failing as a mom. Looking back that wasn’t necessary. Those numbers just meant I had more to learn and also that diabetes is a difficult disease to manage.
I think we can all agree that diabetes has so many variables that affect blood sugar numbers. A bit of self-care and self-love goes a long way to allowing us to grow from the experience. Allowing us to open up to learning and understanding all of the intricacies of managing diabetes.
When you go to a place of guilt and shame there’s no opportunity to learn and grow. Let go of the self-judgement. It only brings you to a place of victim mentality, which won’t move you forward. Failure is just feedback. Taken as feedback failing is an opportunity.
As a mom of a child with diabetes take each blood sugar number just as feedback and adjust from there. Don’t add the drama. Know that what you are doing is enough.
You are the perfect mom for your child. Unconditional love for yourself is as important as unconditional love for your child.
I’d love to help you learn how to take every blood sugar number and every A1C as feedback. I’d love to help you to leave all the self-judgement behind.. Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching. Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?