Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!
Today’s question is: Do you worry about what other’s think about your management of diabetes?
I did! Yes…past tense, did. I don’t any more. I used to spend time trying to control what other people thought about me and how I managed diabetes. I used to worry about how to manage the judgement of others. Do you worry about other people’s opinions?
The truth is, that their opinion is none of your business. Additionally, you have no control over it.
The only thing you control is your thought about their opinion.
Regardless of how much you pretend or twist yourself into something you’re not, ultimately, the other person can still think whatever they want. You can’t control it. They may say one thing and you will never know if that’s exactly what they are thinking.
The truth is when you try too hard to control what people think about you by acting a certain way, you don’t even show up for yourself. They don’t even get to see the true you.
You show up trying to be someone you are not. Someone you think they want you to be. What would happen if you just decided to show up as yourself? If you showed up embracing being a mom who has a child with diabetes, no more pretending, no more acting?
This is how diabetes has changed my life.
This is how diabetes has made me stronger.
This is who I am, a mom with a child who has diabetes.
If you like me, great. If not, no harm done.
I’d like to share a quote from Dita Von Teese “You can be the juiciest peach in the world, but there’s always going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches.”
This is a great analogy about you being this incredible “peach.” It’s about you being yourself. You’re the peach. Some people don’t like peaches. It’s not the peach’s fault.
When you show up as yourself, as the best peach you can be, peach lovers will easily find you, and the connections will be genuine and real. Peach haters will just move along. They weren’t your people anyway.
This blog is a reminder that it isn’t just up to you to decide whether or not someone likes you. It’s up to the other person. Give them permission, in your mind, to not like you. It is refreshing and liberating. Just remind yourself the next time someone has an opinion about you and diabetes, “Oh yeah, That’s okay. They don’t like peaches. It’s nothing personal.”
The reason you get upset when someone doesn’t like you is because of what you make it mean. You make it mean something about you. It isn’t about you. It’s all about their ability to like, their ability to love, their ability to judge.
Their opinion has nothing to do with you! It’s on them!
The only thing you can control are your thoughts. Don’t change your thoughts or actions based on what you think someone might be thinking. Things you think someone might like, because you can never really know what they think.
BE YOU! That’s all you need to do. LOVE YOU! That’s all you need to do. Let everyone else BE THEM!
After years of coaching, my best advice is to put yourself authentically out there enough so people do have an opinion of you. People can either like you or not like you. If you’re showing up in a big way you are going to have haters. That’s on them.
Once you are okay with other people’s opinions and criticisms, your life will catapult to a whole new level.
A level that is not worried about the opinions of others, because you realize that trying to manipulate yourself into someone else because you are trying to control what another person is thinking will not ever work.
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