Welcome to all of my Moms who have kiddos with diabetes!
Today’s Question: Who do you want to be as you go through life with a child who has diabetes?
When something happens to you or your family as a result of diabetes do you automatically label it as bad? I used to…that’s because I believed that the diagnosis of diabetes was the worst thing that ever happened to us.
However, the most important thing I learned is that all problems were in my mind. I learned that a problem is a thought and it’s only a problem when I started to think about it.
Stay with me…if you’re thinking in a way that’s causing you pain, it doesn’t matter if it’s true or if it’s not true. Is the thought serving you? You need to be careful that you pay attention and make sure those thoughts are conscious and intentional.
Decide on purpose what you want to feel in that situation. I decided that I wanted to feel compassion, love and curiosity, no matter what happens with diabetes. Most of the time I can but for sure some of the times I just hate diabetes but at least I know there’s an option.
Some really good questions are: Who do you want to be as you go through life with a child who has diabetes? Do you want to feel frustrated and scared, like a victim? Or open to solutions and strong?
You can argue with your thoughts but there is no upside to doing that. There is no place where you can be creative and wise when you’re arguing with your thoughts or beating yourself up because you aren’t managing diabetes “right” – if there is such a thing.
What you can do instead, is just notice your thoughts that are creating your emotions. Most of time, when you are feeling helpless and disempowered, it’s because you’re identifying yourself as a victim.
All of your power in a “bad” situation is knowing and really understanding that the circumstance is neutral. You get to control what you think about it. When you do focus on what you can control, you get back in the driver’s seat.
A powerful thought to think is, “What is meant to happen does. It was always going to go down this way, and nothing has gone wrong.” Then ask yourself: “If I knew that this was always going to happen, how would I show up differently?”
You’re going to run into obstacles in your life, and those obstacles are part of the deal. They’re supposed to happen. They’re part of the process of being human.
Some helpful questions to ask yourself are: What does this situation offer me? What is the opportunity here? What can I learn from this? How can I use this to make me stronger? What feels most like love right now?
“Bad” things happen. It means that you’re a human being on the planet, and this is what happens in life. You get to decide how you want to show up for things…show up with diabetes as part of your life.
Would you like help taking control over your thoughts about diabetes? Would you like to stop feeling like a victim of the disease? Join me for a FREE 30 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s personal and confidential, one-on-one coaching. Click HERE and go to BOOK NOW to access my schedule or email me here to let me know what day and time works for you. Are you ready to see what you are capable of?