Welcome to all of my Moms who have a child with diabetes!
Today’s Question: Do you find “worry” to be helpful or useful?
Does worry generate a feeling of confidence or positivity? It doesn’t for me. It does feel like it’s necessary these days. With so much unknown why shouldn’t I feel worry? I understand the answer but sometimes worry anyhow. Worry does nothing for me. It doesn’t allow me to focus on finding a solution.
How does worry feel to you? It may feel necessary. It may feel that you don’t have an option. It’s just part of the Covid19 world we live in. So much is unknown right now so worry is just part of it.
The answer is that worry is optional. Worry is living on default mode. It’s important to understand that you have a choice as to how you show up every day. Does pandemic mode include worry for you? Does it have to? No.
You may ask how worry can be optional. How do you gain control over it? Taking control means that you intentionally decide what gives you the best results in your life. Becoming aware of what you are worried about is the first step. It always begins with awareness. When you are worrying start to think about what you are worried about.
Spend a few minutes writing down everything you are worried about. When you are finished with the list ask yourself what else you are worried about? Once that list seems complete go back through it. Sometimes it helps for me to walk away from the list for a bit and then come back. It depends on what’s going on in my life.
When I come back to the list, what I do first is qualify each as a circumstance or thought. Remember circumstances are things that are out of our control. They are statements that everyone would agree with. For example, There is a pandemic in the U.S. is a circumstance, but the pandemic is making my life miserable it a thought. My child having diabetes is a circumstance. Diabetes is a struggle is a thought. Once I clarify them I look at all the circumstances (probably most of them are thoughts) and then ask myself how I want to think about that circumstance.
Do I want to feel in control of my thought about that circumstance? What result do I want from thinking about that circumstance? Also what is my natural thought about that circumstance? Usually our default thought involves thinking we are going to die and that we need to be in survival mode all the time.
The next thing I do is go through and look at all of the thoughts I wrote down. I ask myself if those thoughts are serving me? What are the results of those thoughts? Are those thoughts that I would choose? Then I decide with intention to let go of the worry and try to manage what I have control over.
It sounds simple but it’s not easy. Our brains are designed to go to survival mode all the time. They are designed to think we are going to die and that we can’t do anything about it. So figure out what it is that you are worrying about and then decide how else you might be able to think about it.
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