Welcome to all of my Moms who have T1D kids!
Today’s question is: Since diabetes has entered your life, has your unsupervised brain created unnecessary negative emotion?
Balancing your emotions is an important aspect to living life on purpose, especially while raising a T1D child. You have four basic options when processing pain. They are to avoid, resist, react or process that negative emotion. If you haven’t read my blog, Getting Punched in the Face, about processing emotion, feel free to take a moment to read that.
A recap is that when you choose to process that negative emotion and not avoid, resist or react to it, you will find real freedom and strength.
The more willing you are to feel the negative emotion, the better you get at it, the less difficult it will become and the stronger you become! To make a positive change in your life about diabetes you have to genuinely want to feel negative emotion more than you want to hate diabetes.
When you’re willing to feel the negative emotion, instead of spending your energy hating diabetes, you’ll come to realize that the struggle with diabetes doesn’t serve you.
Realizing that the daily struggle with diabetes is a thought and that thought is optional is incredible. It’s a gift from me to you! That thought and that struggle can be changed. It will take balancing your emotions, but it can happen.
Understand that life’s emotional experience is a 50/50 game. There is contrast, and that is wonderful. You can’t really know happiness if you don’t know sadness.
Pema Chodron, a Buddhist author, teaches us about balance, the yin and the yang of everything. He teaches, that part of life, is suffering, and if you actually agree to experience the suffering and be kind to yourself during it, personal growth happens. You want there to be suffering so we can experience the contrast of being human, and this will allow you to evolve.
If you’re always happy and perfect and loved and everything is great all of the time, there is no reason to advance or evolve.
When you are willing to feel negative emotion, if you know that it is part of your life, you can stop resisting it. You can release yourself from the struggle of trying to be happy all of the time. You can let the struggle between you and diabetes go. Remembering that fifty percent of the time, you can plan on feeling negative emotion.
You can let that negative emotion defeat you, by avoiding, resisting or reacting to it OR you can process that negative emotion and let your life evolve forward.
I know I had this idea that I should feel positive emotion all of the time, or that feeling negative emotion meant there was something wrong. My brain, unsupervised, created more negative emotion that was unnecessary. When I began to supervise my brain it starting producing about 50% positive and 50% negative emotion.
I realized that being aware and managing my brain allowed me to take back my power from diabetes.
Do you want to take back your power from diabetes? Embracing the fact that as balanced human beings, our emotional experience is going to be 50/50. Also embrace the negative emotion in your life and process it the way you are meant to and advance your life with real purpose.?
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