Welcome to all of my Moms who have T1D kids!
Today’s question is: Since T1D diagnosis has it been more difficult to set your goals?
Why should we set goals anyhow? I know after my son was diagnosed with diabetes I figured setting goals were just too difficult. I had all I could do to take blood sugars, manage school issues, order supplies, all while staying in a state of perpetual overwhelm. If this sounds like you…then this blog is perfect for you!
The reason you should set goals is not just so you can feel better about yourself, but because your purpose in the world is to evolve into the best version of yourself.
The way I did this was to continually ask myself to step into purposeful discomfort (not the discomfort of managing diabetes – it feels different), commit to a goal, understand it will take courage to get there, develop my capabilities and then lastly become confident in the field I was working on. Dan Sullivan from Strategic Coach calls this The 4 C’s Formula. It works because you start with a foundation and move forward towards a result you want. It doesn’t start with confidence since that is developed as you go through the process of reaching that goal.
Imagine something way beyond your current abilities, bring up all of the obstacles that are blocking you from achieving it, and then problem solve to conquer those obstacles.
As you move through the process of setting and achieving goals you will become a better version of yourself. Goals also give your brain structure and supervision. Your primitive brain is like a unsupervised child. When you set a goal and focus on it, that deliberate concentration tells your brain what to do. You just have to tell it what you want to accomplish and it will help you do just that.
Your higher brain will get to work trying to achieve your goal.
An importance piece of setting goals is to come from a place of abundance, not scarcity. The abundance comes from wanting what you already have. There are so many of us that when listing things we want we never include things we already have. It’s important to include those things…to be grateful.
Write down 25 things you want, include some things you already have and some things you don’t have yet. Once you have your list…pick one of them that you don’t have.
Get specific about the one you want and include when you want it. and include how much you want if that’s appropriate for the goal. Do not include how you’re going to get it. (To understand why you need to just write it down and start taking action read, Dan Block’s book, The Answer to How Is YES.)
Write the goal down and read it every day!
My big goal was to go back to college and graduate with a bachelor’s degree before I was sixty years old (I had dropped out as a college junior) I wrote it down and read it every day. Every day I read it…all of these negative thoughts came up. The thoughts produced feelings of embarrassment, shame, overwhelm, anxiety to just name a few. What comes up for you when you think about the one goal you want to achieve?
Look at the negative thoughts around it and write them down. Look at them and notice that they are just thoughts. They are sentences in your head and they are optional.
Now go to a place where the goal is accomplished. Look back at those negative thoughts you wrote down and address them from a place of the goal being accomplished. How did you get there? How did you overcome all of those negative thoughts? T
This is your Action List. Finally, ask yourself, “What else do I need to do to guarantee that I meet my goal?” Call this your Do Goal List.
Now get to work. The best thing is that whether or not you reach your goal, you are guaranteed to become a better and more evolved version of yourself in the attempt. There will be so many incredible bi-products of just setting the goal.
Want help setting a goal, processing the negative thoughts, making an action plan and a list of Do Goals? Join me in a FREE 20 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s confidential one-on-one coaching. Click here to sign up for a free session.