SELF CARE. SELF LOVE (while taking care of a T1D child)
Welcome to all of my Moms who have T1D kids!
Today’s question is: Is caring for a T1D child limiting your ability to take care of yourself?
I hear it from clients over and over again…they don’t have time to plan meals, let alone, feel their feelings! I know that having a T1D child requires managing, juggling, surviving (the list goes on and on) but I do know that you can’t pour love from an empty pitcher.
For me the hardest part of taking care of my four kids, especially with a T1D child, was that it felt good! It was so externally rewarding and still is! However, inside I was starving for my own attention. I was starving for time to dream dreams, create anything on purpose, manage the struggles I felt on a daily basis. I didn’t have time! I didn’t take time!
Do you HAVE time to take care of yourself? Do you TAKE time to take care of yourself?
Reflecting on that time in my life makes me appreciate the coaching tools I’ve learned every day. I look back on that time with love and compassion.
I was exactly where I was supposed to be: scared, overwhelmed, worried. I don’t beat myself up about it.
However, now I am at a point where I realize that the most important person to take care of is me! Period! Well at least most of the time…unless we have a severe low blood sugar – then T1D takes priority.
I realized that while I was telling my family to take care of themselves, they were watching me not take care of myself. What kind of message was I sending?
What kind of message are you sending?
When I slowly began to show myself self care and self love I actually had more to give to those around me. Doing this did not take away from me – it added value and joy to their lives, as well. Was it easy? Absolutely not!
It won’t be for you either! Is everyone used to you dropping everything to tend to their needs? If you practice a few minutes of self care a day will everyone notice? Probably! Present what you are trying to do from a place of love. Explain that everyone should take care of themselves.
There will always be things vying for your attention, especially when diabetes is involved! However, not taking care of yourself is procrastinating your work.
Distracting yourself, from yourself, in order to handle the problems of everyone else is a cop out. Actually, I was so good at managing everyone’s issues that I didn’t want to manage my own. My clients always tell me that their an exception. They lives are hectic. It’s just not possible to take time. They think it’s harsh for me to say they need to stop sacrificing their dreams and goals for their family.
Of course, diabetes, blood sugar numbers, sleepless nights, supply ordering, school issues all matter, but….YOU matter, too!
Taking care of you is never selfish! It’s your job to develop yourself, to keep growing, to trade your excuses in for your dreams!
Think about what results you are creating in your life by not taking care of yourself?
A good way to start to begin self care is to ask yourself a great question every day. We ask ourselves question all day long: “How can I get this done?” “Why is my life so hard?” “Why me?” When you ask yourself these questions your brain goes to work searching for answers. What helps is asking yourself empowering, high quality questions. “How can I find 15 minutes for me today?” “How can I be happier today?”
“How can I make taking a blood sugar more fun?” The higher the quality of question the higher the quality of answer your brain will find.
If you ask yourself a high quality, empowering question every day your brain will come up with creative and wonderful ideas on how to answer that question and accomplish that goal.
Want help finding high quality, empowering questions? Want me to help you find some time for self care? Join me in a FREE 20 minute Exploration Coaching Session! It’s confidential one-on-one coaching. Click here to sign up for a free session.