Welcome to all of my Moms who have T1D kids!
Today’s question is: Have you ever considered accepting diabetes and stop battling with it?
I, surely, did not think I ever would “accept” diabetes.
I felt entitled to hate it and hate it forever. It changed my life and for that it should be hated.
Until, that is, I looked at my life and wanted more…more control, more dreams come true, more happiness. I wanted to stop battling diabetes. I realized that my son would mimic what I believed about diabetes. I did not want him to go through life with a bias and thought system I had instilled in him that was negative. I knew that “accepting” diabetes would require effort. Effort I was ready and willing to take.
Step 1: You have to find out what you believe now. Those beliefs that you have are so important. What you believe is what you will create.
Here are a few questions to help you figure out what you believe now:
What do you believe about yourself and diabetes?
What do you believe about diabetes and your child?
What do you believe about the role of diabetes in your life?
What hurts you most about diabetes?
After exploring the above questions ask yourself:
What do you believe about your capacity in your future and the role that diabetes will play? Do you know why you believe this?
You believe this because it is a thought! It is a thought you keep on thinking. The thoughts that you think over and over again are your beliefs. Your beliefs will determine how your feel about your life. They will determine what you do, and they will ultimately determine your results.
You often think you are innocently making observations of truth. Diabetes is negative. Diabetes should be hated. You aren’t! You are having thoughts. There’s a difference. Thoughts are optional – facts aren’t!
The fact is your child has diabetes (it’s neutral.) It doesn’t become negative or positive until you have a thought about it.
Step 2: Decide what you want to believe. What do you want to believe about diabetes?
Is your current thought serving you? If not, what do you want to believe instead?
Make it believable. Don’t shoot all the way to the opposite side of your current belief. Find a belief that resonates with you. Go for neutral before you try and then try for a positive belief. Take your time. The longer you’ve believed that negative thought, the longer it will take to change it. The more effort you will have to give. It is because there are neuropathways that have been established to the thought. That thought is easy. It’s already believable.
To change that thought it will require effort. It will require you being uncomfortable. It will require courage and the willingness to try that new thought out.
Step 3: PRACTICE BELIEVING THAT NEW THOUGHT! If you can’t quite get there, build a bridge to it…rather than defaulting to the negative thought.
Here are some bridge thoughts that helped me:
Hating diabetes is just a sentence in my head.
It’s possible that I can stop fighting diabetes and accept it.
I am learning to accept diabetes.
I am trying to think diabetes may be a positive part of my life.
I am considering that diabetes should be accepted by me.
I am becoming someone who thinks diabetes can have positive implications.
I am a person who wants to be empowered by diabetes.
Practice believing your new thought over and over again. Make it second nature.
When you believe something enough, it’s as good as done. That’s why you must practice believing. You can’t just believe something for today – you need to believe it today and tomorrow and every day after that.
When you accept diabetes it doesn’t mean you won’t ever feel sad or angry about it. (There are days I choose to feel sad, choose to be angry.) It doesn’t mean you will be happy all the time. Remember…life is 50/50 – 50% positive and 50% negative, however you will evolve into a higher version of yourself and advance your life with real purpose, if you can accept diabetes.
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